Hello Gentlemen. By "Gentlemen" I really mean anyone reading this, man, woman, or child. "Child?" Yes, there are guys here right now who are only 12 years old. They did not intend it to happen, but they woke up one day and realized they were in the clutches of something that had them, something they did not like, something that was defining them as something they disliked. Charlie Clear, if you are reading this, it is time. You are not 12 anymore, you are 13, and it is time to get clean. Tick tock. You don't want to be here ten years from now, posting about your 8000th 7 day streak and relapse, you want to get CLEAN now. Clean now.
I want you Gentlemen to watch a video, but not just now. Wait. I want to to plan on watching it. I want you, right now, to plan on watching this video, and I want you to make a pot of coffee or tea, get a beer if that is what you need, maybe just a glass of water, and take 16 minutes of your life to get educated about our common problem. So, what do we have in common?
Having been here for a long time I see a lot of us sharing common traits. For one, most of us are above average IQ and we are very creative, even artistic. We have the ability to almost turn imagination into reality. That is one of the reason we become dopamine addicted, we can look at pixels on a screen, or even just use our imagination, and that thought, that perception, almost becomes real for us. There are people in this world who watch pornography and do not become addicted to it; it does not affect them at all. Believe it or not it takes a special sort of mind to have our problem, and that has a lot to do with creativity and heightened imagination ability. I think it also has to do with a higher than average IQ. I don't see a lot of stupid people here. I see a lot of very smart people doing stupid things, but that's different, that is the addiction.
I think all of us are a bit OCD. We have short attention spans. It is not that we do not find anything interesting, just the opposite, we find EVERYTHING interesting. It is hard for any one thing to hold our attention, which is part of the problem when endless, novel, new, never-seen-before-porn provides an endless dopamine rush. We like that rush.
That is why most of us here are also risk-takers. Out in the real world, a lot of us take risks. We jump out of airplanes and parachute to Earth, we climb sheer rock walls, we push our machines way too hard. Me? Motorcycles. I have had many wrecks trying to push the machines way outside their design specs. If the bike comes with instructions "do not", then I probably have tried to do it. I have seen, literally seen, people die on bikes doing what I was attempting to do, or, after I saw them die, what I then tried to do myself. I have had multiple crashes pushing the machines way out beyond what they were supposed to do, I have broken my arm and leg in two separate crashes, drove a piece of metal through my leg. Did I feel pain? Yeah, but the truth is it got me high, and amused the fuck out of me. When my friends pulled the metal out and one passed out, it was amusing. When I had to get back on the bike and ride it away from there, it was amusing. Why do I tell you this? I tell you this because that feeling of being amused was just dopamine abuse. I did not know it at the time, but it was. Here is a great article on risk takers and dopamine.
http://content.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1869106,00.html
You need to study the problem we have. Like Gabe says, "read everything". Understand what is going on in there. It won't cure the problem, but it makes taking the cure possible.
OK. Now, go make that pot of whatever you are going to drink as you watch the video. Gary Wilson has a new video out, it is approximately 50 minutes long and it is as usual brilliant but...Gary really does not understand how much we want instant gratification when we click on a link, so I think the shorter 16 video is something you can get through. Watch it, think about it, watch it again, and watch it every day until you can start putting back to back days together with no P and no PMO.
This problem is not always fixed in the hard 90, but if you can do the 90 hard mode, them most report being back in control. It does not mean you will never want that dopamine rush again, it just means you will choose healthier ways to get it, and be satisfied with a lot less of it.
Here is the vid:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
I want every man, woman, and child reading this to have what I have: freedom.
Peace.