All good thoughts above, Orbiter!
Hope you're feeling better!
Hope you're feeling better!
Congratulations to this insight. Hold on to this curiosity and trust that your future is going to be positive and you can manage all upcoming difficulties without PMO.Instead there's a genuine excitement about what the future holds.
We can't have it all at the same time. We/you must now do everything to get out of this dark forest at first. This is necessary to free yourself of PMO and create new capacities. I know some people know who experience addiction and this is for sure a thing that's definitely true. At one point everything possible must act in the direction of recovery for some period. After that you will be more free of the thrills.is that because I have to invest so much energy into 'staying clean' I don't have the energy to live or work on anything other than recovery until I am 'rebooted'.
Orbiter said:One of the negative thought distortions I sometimes experience beyond the first 7 or so days of recovery, is that because I have to invest so much energy into 'staying clean' I don't have the energy to live or work on anything other than recovery until I am 'rebooted'.
Phineas 808 said:Congrats on 19 days and beyond, Orbiter!
You're doing great, especially with dismissing urges.
I can totally relate to this empty feeling, and the low, low mood you're in. This is the challenge for me, right now, too. To confront the lingering needs, the deeper spiritual and emotional needs that P/MO used to mask and medicate as best it could (albeit, creating it's own cycle of negative feelings).
We can do this: not only change our habits, but also the why of our former behaviors.
Orbiter said:Day 6 to Day 0
I MOed once yesterday. I was tired, hungover and was only semi erect. Very unsatisfying.
PMOed twice to hardcore videos today.
I would classify this as a relapse as this is a return to the addict pattern of behaviour
I actually had difficulty getting hard even to PMO which is concerning.
The question I have is why did I do it? I feel I am at the point where I actually don't like it. So what is it about PMO that makes me return to it? What need is it fulfilling that I would return to it despite everything? What am I missing here...
This is a result of porn use. The stimulus is not enough anymore.I actually had difficulty getting hard even to PMO which is concerning.
Maybe it felt just like the right thing to do? The brain telling you that you need PMO? And no signs of doubt before it? Then you did it just because the addiction told you to. It needs a period of no-PMO in which the symptoms weaken. I say there is a good chance after 21-90 days.The question I have is why did I do it?