Hi Ajinkya,Hey Orbiter, your list is all good and comprehensive .
But there is something that surpasses all this checklist and will take you long way in your journey and
even I have come to realize it only lately and that is - answering the "WHY" question
"Why do you what to reboot ???"
keep asking yourself this question,
you may not get an answer that quickly but have it at back of your mind.
Mind it the answer will be Liberating .
Keep on questioning.
More power to you.
Thanks for dropping in and for your observations. To respond, the purpose of that particular list is intended to address "Euphoric Recall" i.e something I can read to remind me of the reasons not to PMO when the addiction is clouding my judgement with feelings of nostalgia, cognitive distortions and other reasons to give in and do so. Therefore it does not contain a "WHY" as it is intended to be a "WHY NOT" list.
The "WHY" or mission statement to quit I feel is, in essence, covered in the previous list in this area here.
Moving Away From:
Being a victim of life & circumstances. Not taking responsibility for living own life, finding happiness & achieving dreams. Expecting time, fate, other people etc to come along and give those things. Giving up & blaming life, external circumstances & others when this doesn’t happen.
Unhealthy escapism. Using destructive habits to escape uncomfortable emotions & situation (I.e PMO, drugs, alcohol)
Negative self beliefs (inferiority, unworthy of a better life, believing a better life & being a better self is impossible, convincing self & others of this instead of improving areas of life)
Procrastinating (can just do it tomorrow, too much effort, feeling too tired, feeling too down, it probably won’t work anyway etc.)
Accepting & letting other people cross & disrespect personal boundaries & values out of fear of rejection, nonacceptance & a belief of personal inferiority
Unhealthy co-dependencies on other people to achieve personal dreams & goals
Self sabotage (see all of the above)
Feeling like a personal of no confidence, self love or self belief.
Being a person living a life in which PORN IS NOT AN OPTION
A life of meaningful connection with the self (living ones passions eg. Actively working on music, playing in bands, pursuing interests & identifying with them as a person)
Meaningful connections with others (cultivating a life full of respectful & mutual relationships with friends, family, partners that have healthy boundaries)
Real, meangingful intimacy, romance, companionship & sexual connection
NO MORE ED!!
Living an honest life free of shame, fear & self-hatred
Being a good friend, son, brother & partner to others in my life
Being a person of integrity, being true to own beliefs and living a life according to own values.
Facing life & problems rather than self-sabotaging to avoid it.
Being a person on inner strength, confidence & self belief
If this is inadequate or does not function as an effective why, would you have any comments as to why that is the case? Or suggestions how this could better serve it's purpose? I ask out of genuine curiosity. Any insights or ideas I may have missed are welcome.