EarthWalker
Respected Member
Background:
Passive-aggressive parents. Never felt loved. Never felt love. Worked my way trough university. Lost a bit of sanity on the way. Spent way too much time playing computer games and lost myself in P way too many times. Virgin at 31. Ruminated a lot. Now time to become a complete human being.
I am grateful for P. It put me in a place where all bets are off. I cannot hide anymore. I need to face myself.
Current situation:
Have a well paying, low stress but extremely unfulfilling and boring job (software engineer). I live in a rented apartment. I own a small car. I have a little money saved up.
Long term plan:
1. find a fulfilling job. I don't care about money that much. It is important but feeling good is more important.
This is pretty much it. I want to get up in the morning and be like....fuck yeah...lets do something....fulfilling. Sitting at the office and punching the keyboard is not it.
In the past QiGong (standing meditation) helped me a lot trough some rough patches. As crazy as it sounds I'll explore becoming a QiGong master as a full time job. There is some jedi stuff in the real QiGong. I stared doing it again. I think it does make my life a lot better.
I plan on going to China for 3-6 months to study QiGong full time. I plan on going to China this Winter.
Short term plan:
1. Dressing style // buy some new clothes
2. Eating habits // I got breakfast down, now need to figure out lunch and dinner
3. Apartment // I am not happy with my rented apartment, but should keep it tidy and clean
4. QiGong // keep on practicing
5. Fitness // should start the Mark Lauren You Are Your Own Gym program again
Basically I'll focus on my short term plan before I go to China. I'll reevaluate my situation when I get back.
Tools:
I am reading https://www.amazon.com/Craving-Mind-Cigarettes-Smartphones-Hooked/dp/0300223242/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8
Why I can't let go of P.
Still the pleasure feels so real. Do I want to feel good? Yes! PMO. Crap. I am better off if I don't PMO.
Basically the in the moment pleasure wins over my knowledge of how this behavior is actual bad for me in the long run. I am in N-day streaks mode. When I am OKish, it is not a problem to see clearly how P,M,O is bad fore me. But when I am very tired and stuff, the pleasure wins over my logical thinking.
The Urge Surfing (google it) works great when I am committed. I need to work on strengthening my commitment to stay away from P and excessive MO (imho 1-2x per month vanilla MO is fine, anything more is excessive).
Passive-aggressive parents. Never felt loved. Never felt love. Worked my way trough university. Lost a bit of sanity on the way. Spent way too much time playing computer games and lost myself in P way too many times. Virgin at 31. Ruminated a lot. Now time to become a complete human being.
I am grateful for P. It put me in a place where all bets are off. I cannot hide anymore. I need to face myself.
Current situation:
Have a well paying, low stress but extremely unfulfilling and boring job (software engineer). I live in a rented apartment. I own a small car. I have a little money saved up.
Long term plan:
1. find a fulfilling job. I don't care about money that much. It is important but feeling good is more important.
This is pretty much it. I want to get up in the morning and be like....fuck yeah...lets do something....fulfilling. Sitting at the office and punching the keyboard is not it.
In the past QiGong (standing meditation) helped me a lot trough some rough patches. As crazy as it sounds I'll explore becoming a QiGong master as a full time job. There is some jedi stuff in the real QiGong. I stared doing it again. I think it does make my life a lot better.
I plan on going to China for 3-6 months to study QiGong full time. I plan on going to China this Winter.
Short term plan:
1. Dressing style // buy some new clothes
2. Eating habits // I got breakfast down, now need to figure out lunch and dinner
3. Apartment // I am not happy with my rented apartment, but should keep it tidy and clean
4. QiGong // keep on practicing
5. Fitness // should start the Mark Lauren You Are Your Own Gym program again
Basically I'll focus on my short term plan before I go to China. I'll reevaluate my situation when I get back.
Tools:
I am reading https://www.amazon.com/Craving-Mind-Cigarettes-Smartphones-Hooked/dp/0300223242/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8
Why I can't let go of P.
Still the pleasure feels so real. Do I want to feel good? Yes! PMO. Crap. I am better off if I don't PMO.
Basically the in the moment pleasure wins over my knowledge of how this behavior is actual bad for me in the long run. I am in N-day streaks mode. When I am OKish, it is not a problem to see clearly how P,M,O is bad fore me. But when I am very tired and stuff, the pleasure wins over my logical thinking.
The Urge Surfing (google it) works great when I am committed. I need to work on strengthening my commitment to stay away from P and excessive MO (imho 1-2x per month vanilla MO is fine, anything more is excessive).