Hi JS, thank you for helping me all this while.
Thank you for giving me a chance to reciprocate.
1. Keep a note book and keep with you always
- write whatever is meaningful for you in your life ( wife/family/ loving home etc)
- list down all the alternative measures you can take
- refer to the note book often whenever you need to
- remind yourself that you are accountable to God, your wife and family. Visualize them in the room with you.
2. bring a big photo of your family and place it in front of your phone or wherever you can see it easily
3. call your wife whenever you have challenges. Tell her you love her and how much she means to you. Call her often.
4. Love and respect yourself deeply
5. spend time helping others by logging into this forum and other forums and contribute
6. spend time thinking/doing/buying back what you can for your happy family while you are away
7. spend time to help others by doing volunteer/charity work ( find out in advance where you can )
8. set a goal to read a book. Make sure you complete a chapter a day. Set a goal to share about the story with your wife when you return
9. bring an interesting hobby with you to complete that will take up a few hours. learn drawing or a second language or sign language. Make the goal of showing it when you return
10 go to the nearest supermarket and spend time studying the products/prices. You'd learn something. This is to keep you out of your room and lounges where you might chat someone up or do something you dont want to. In the meanwhile you are learning new things and keeping busy.
11. If you cannot sleep at night, get out of the room and bring a book to the lobby to read. Dont talk with anyone. Go back up after a while and turn off all the lights and get to sleep.
12 With respect, if you must M, do it to the picture of your wife only. ( i'm not sure if this is appropriate, perhaps have a word with her first how you'd like to carry this out? Its effective as it gets the issue out of your system)
13. Keep facetime on with your wife even when you are not talking with her. Turn it off only when you are going to bed.
14. Keep a hand written journal. Write that which interests you. Currently i have 2: one is my daily life, another is the summary of whatever chapter I am reading
Hope this helps.