vigilantwarrior
Active Member
Day 1
I have been here once before, and there's no more time I can waste or postpone on this. I am stuck in a vicious cycle, one that I think even those who are prone to say "anything goes" might say "you need some help". I'm scary-addicted to porn. Within a weekend it wouldn't be surprising for me to spend 15 hours taking it in. I do it for a reason, obviously, or else this cycle wouldn't be happening. It half-fills a need, or gives me an escape. But in the meantime I feel my soul dying. I let addiction ruin plans, ruin my self-confidence, ruin any hopeful or purposeful light inside of me, etc.
It all sounds pretty dramatic, but, honestly, you can tell when a destructive habit is killing you. I know many people in this forum are rebooting to use their sexuality in a more real way, with real people, and in a way I can connect to that in the sense that it would be nice to have that kind of energy and confidence that I could use to meet girls and maybe find someone meaningful and get rid of the loneliness that i subject myself to on a weekly basis.
I plan to post here every day about how I'm feeling, if I'm dealing with urges, and what I'm doing to stay healthy. I haven't done this in far too long and I need it badly. I don't expect it necessarily but I appreciate any support. Fundamental loneliness is one factor that draws me back to porn, so I dig this forum as a small step to break away from that. I can have no P and no subsets of P. I am not against MO but I do not intend to do that very regularly.
As Tony Litster says, when we get excited to make a major change, all hell breaks loose, emotions, doubts show up and we don't keep it together. We need better tools of coping with life, stresses, and temptations, because life's not going away. I know this is going to be very difficult and very painful, but I've been sitting on this and wasting away too long. If there are any suggestions on how to handle cravings, emotional crashes, dark thoughts and such, please feel free to share. I'll need anything I can get.
So the journey begins.
I have been here once before, and there's no more time I can waste or postpone on this. I am stuck in a vicious cycle, one that I think even those who are prone to say "anything goes" might say "you need some help". I'm scary-addicted to porn. Within a weekend it wouldn't be surprising for me to spend 15 hours taking it in. I do it for a reason, obviously, or else this cycle wouldn't be happening. It half-fills a need, or gives me an escape. But in the meantime I feel my soul dying. I let addiction ruin plans, ruin my self-confidence, ruin any hopeful or purposeful light inside of me, etc.
It all sounds pretty dramatic, but, honestly, you can tell when a destructive habit is killing you. I know many people in this forum are rebooting to use their sexuality in a more real way, with real people, and in a way I can connect to that in the sense that it would be nice to have that kind of energy and confidence that I could use to meet girls and maybe find someone meaningful and get rid of the loneliness that i subject myself to on a weekly basis.
I plan to post here every day about how I'm feeling, if I'm dealing with urges, and what I'm doing to stay healthy. I haven't done this in far too long and I need it badly. I don't expect it necessarily but I appreciate any support. Fundamental loneliness is one factor that draws me back to porn, so I dig this forum as a small step to break away from that. I can have no P and no subsets of P. I am not against MO but I do not intend to do that very regularly.
As Tony Litster says, when we get excited to make a major change, all hell breaks loose, emotions, doubts show up and we don't keep it together. We need better tools of coping with life, stresses, and temptations, because life's not going away. I know this is going to be very difficult and very painful, but I've been sitting on this and wasting away too long. If there are any suggestions on how to handle cravings, emotional crashes, dark thoughts and such, please feel free to share. I'll need anything I can get.
So the journey begins.