Worrying and testing erections

So I've been a long time rebooting and I considered myself cured because I could get hard alone with no porn or images.
But now I'm about to have sex in a few days, it's the first time after I started rebooting and I'm having intrusive thoughts like "will I get hard when I'm with the girl?" and also I made the mistake of trying testing my ability to get hard, when I was taking a shower I tried imagining the scenario where I'm with the girl, but then that intrusive thought returned and I couldn't get it full hard, and even the weak erection I got faded very quickly. That wasn't happening when I was all relaxed a day or two before that.
After that I tried again on my bedroom with the same result.

Now I can't get this worrying out of my mind. It's really annoying how I can't control my mind, it's like saying "don't think about a pink elephant!", well you're thinking about it in the moment you thought about not thinking about it.
Do you guys have some advices for me?
 

CROUS

Member
Hi JackReboot,

as it sounds to me you are moving from PIED to PA (performance anxiety). It is pretty nasty, I know.
What I would do is, talk to her about it (what you have been through and why it might happen that you
will not be hard.) This way you take the pressure (you are building yourself) off the situation. Also, I
would advise you to stay in the moment. Enjoy touching, smelling, feeling her. Just be with her and do not
allow your thoughts to drift off to hypotheticals.
Try to be calm, take a couple of deep breaths, and focus your attention on her. This might even happen
automatically.
Maybe, getting a good night's sleep and reducing stress for a while will help you reducing those thoughts too.
Mediation may help also.

Good luck. You can do it!

Peace.
 
CROUS said:
Hi JackReboot,

as it sounds to me you are moving from PIED to PA (performance anxiety). It is pretty nasty, I know.
What I would do is, talk to her about it (what you have been through and why it might happen that you
will not be hard.) This way you take the pressure (you are building yourself) off the situation. Also, I
would advise you to stay in the moment. Enjoy touching, smelling, feeling her. Just be with her and do not
allow your thoughts to drift off to hypotheticals.
Try to be calm, take a couple of deep breaths, and focus your attention on her. This might even happen
automatically.
Maybe, getting a good night's sleep and reducing stress for a while will help you reducing those thoughts too.
Mediation may help also.

Good luck. You can do it!

Peace.

Thanks man.
Yeah I'm aware it's a case of performance anxiety. I'll try what you said, focusing on her and in the moment itself.
Thanks again, I believe I can do it. It's just a matter of stopping this cycle of negative thoughts.
 
Just buy Viagra/Cialis and use it first couple of times I mean because if you fail you will just increase your PA. nothing wrong with little confidence booster. And also for the fuck sake stop testing and touching yourself you only sabotage your own healing process. When I see many post here on forum the one think that I see is this youtube vid:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18AzodTPG5U

Just stop... you will get there when you get there.
 
I've already had used viagra when I had PIED and it does not make a difference.

What really can help you is you be aware that for you to get excited you don't need to watch porn and NEITHER fantasize. Fantasize makes the process go slower and puts pressure on you by "I fantasize and I did not get erection". Put in your mind that the only time that a erection could be good is when you are with a woman.
 
So, I had sex and it was amazing!
I was hard just by seeing getting her naked, so yeah guys I'm fully healed!

Thanks for the support!
 

Dico888

Active Member
Whoah dude, great to hear!

Always good to read success stories :) now you can finally stop testing yourself in the shower ^^

 
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