My future is awesome!
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TakeActionNow
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PMO is about me
instant gratification is about me
touching myself is about me
locking myself in my room and surfing for porn is about me
Feeling needy is about me
wanting attention is about me
See the trend here?
Where is the social exchange ?
Where is my contribution to make other people's lives better?
PMO is a SELFISH behavior
it promotes selfish and self centered behavior
just like all other vices : drugs/gambling/alcohol/smoking
It has absolutely NO benefits to self or others
instant gratification is about me
touching myself is about me
locking myself in my room and surfing for porn is about me
Feeling needy is about me
wanting attention is about me
See the trend here?
Where is the social exchange ?
Where is my contribution to make other people's lives better?
PMO is a SELFISH behavior
it promotes selfish and self centered behavior
just like all other vices : drugs/gambling/alcohol/smoking
It has absolutely NO benefits to self or others
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
The past doesn't matter
The future is yet to be
Only the present is what we have
Stop waiting for others to serve you on a platter.
Go out and get it.
Want it. Hunger for it.
Don't take it personally
Don't make assumptions
Don't be lazy. Do your best
Take action now
The future is yet to be
Only the present is what we have
Stop waiting for others to serve you on a platter.
Go out and get it.
Want it. Hunger for it.
Don't take it personally
Don't make assumptions
Don't be lazy. Do your best
Take action now
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
Most people here are straight up addicted to Porn.
I thought i was too, only to discover that my roots are deeper and darker.
Almost 30 days now and not much of a craving for me.
It's cos I'm too focused on other things:
* getting a job
* thinking about someone
* getting too caught up in my own misery
* trying very hard to make each minute of every day count
Now I have a new goal:
* getting some skills up so that I am more attractive to hirers.
See, PMO is detachment from reality.
Once you start getting really engaged and interested in reality, PMO has no attraction at all.
I went to a big data lecture today. Very nerdy and all.
But at the back of my mind i was thinking:
had i not been wanking off in uni
had i not been gaming all day long
had i not been avoiding tutorials and classes
had i given my fullest attention to tackle the subjects and come out triumphant with new knowledge in my mind, stuff my whiny emotions and take this confidence and interest into the real world, what kind of life would i have now ?
So, no thank you PMO.
You've (I) fucked up half my life already
I'll be damned if I'm going to let you (me) fuck up whatever little i have left.
I'm going back to the school of life, and I'll do my damn hardest to be the best student there.
I thought i was too, only to discover that my roots are deeper and darker.
Almost 30 days now and not much of a craving for me.
It's cos I'm too focused on other things:
* getting a job
* thinking about someone
* getting too caught up in my own misery
* trying very hard to make each minute of every day count
Now I have a new goal:
* getting some skills up so that I am more attractive to hirers.
See, PMO is detachment from reality.
Once you start getting really engaged and interested in reality, PMO has no attraction at all.
I went to a big data lecture today. Very nerdy and all.
But at the back of my mind i was thinking:
had i not been wanking off in uni
had i not been gaming all day long
had i not been avoiding tutorials and classes
had i given my fullest attention to tackle the subjects and come out triumphant with new knowledge in my mind, stuff my whiny emotions and take this confidence and interest into the real world, what kind of life would i have now ?
So, no thank you PMO.
You've (I) fucked up half my life already
I'll be damned if I'm going to let you (me) fuck up whatever little i have left.
I'm going back to the school of life, and I'll do my damn hardest to be the best student there.
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
yesterday was a strong day.
i was too tired to do anything on monday when i flew back, so i had heaps to do yesterday
which kept me busy, fulfilled and happy => confident
today is the opposite.
its a holiday here, and i have nothing/cannot find anything to do.
the job bank is full of openings i cannot fill
i'm pissed, upset and getting depressed.
some resentment is building up, so i need to work it out.
went to swim 10 laps in the early afternoon
and too a nap after that
lying in bed i caught myself contemplating a little chatroom fix.
but i'm smarter now.
quickly reflect that its because i'm bored
so the right thing to do quickly now is to get some reading/studying done
cos i have only 3 life focus now:
skill improvement
self improvement
$$$ improvement
i was too tired to do anything on monday when i flew back, so i had heaps to do yesterday
which kept me busy, fulfilled and happy => confident
today is the opposite.
its a holiday here, and i have nothing/cannot find anything to do.
the job bank is full of openings i cannot fill
i'm pissed, upset and getting depressed.
some resentment is building up, so i need to work it out.
went to swim 10 laps in the early afternoon
and too a nap after that
lying in bed i caught myself contemplating a little chatroom fix.
but i'm smarter now.
quickly reflect that its because i'm bored
so the right thing to do quickly now is to get some reading/studying done
cos i have only 3 life focus now:
skill improvement
self improvement
$$$ improvement
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
This is a statement for me and everyone.
Stop being a fucking wuss.
There are 2 states we can choose live in and we jolly well can make a choice:
Depressive | Positive
This can be reflected universally as
ME | WE
When living in the ME/Depressive universe, all we do is constantly ruminate over our sorry state, being fucking needy and don't have the balls what we need to.
Fuck that shit. We are men. We were born to do things. We are leaders. We are Conquerors.
Either wallow in our self pity or make the manly choice and do the hard stuff
Earn the respect of our fellow human beings
Earn our own fucking self respect
Get our act together and get into the WE/positive universe
Be strong, do the difficult shit
Need compliments/ endorsements/ encouragements from outside ? fuck that shit
I should know I did good, WHEN I did good. i shouldn't need others to tell me
I would already be walking my talk.
I have to get my act together.
Keep my eyes peeled on opportunities and go forward.
The past me is dead.
There is only the future me to live for.
Stop being a fucking wuss.
There are 2 states we can choose live in and we jolly well can make a choice:
Depressive | Positive
This can be reflected universally as
ME | WE
When living in the ME/Depressive universe, all we do is constantly ruminate over our sorry state, being fucking needy and don't have the balls what we need to.
Fuck that shit. We are men. We were born to do things. We are leaders. We are Conquerors.
Either wallow in our self pity or make the manly choice and do the hard stuff
Earn the respect of our fellow human beings
Earn our own fucking self respect
Get our act together and get into the WE/positive universe
Be strong, do the difficult shit
Need compliments/ endorsements/ encouragements from outside ? fuck that shit
I should know I did good, WHEN I did good. i shouldn't need others to tell me
I would already be walking my talk.
I have to get my act together.
Keep my eyes peeled on opportunities and go forward.
The past me is dead.
There is only the future me to live for.
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
My progress timeline
May discovery of the woman I love
Early May aggressive meetup with people to discover their life goals and purpose and meaning in life
Mid May Effort to start my engine (failed)
Late May Meeting and falling in love with her
Early June Extreme clarity, Anxiety, hyper mentality, super alertness, mania
Mid June Losing her
Late June Sick, extreme depression, suicidal
Late June Giving up, regressing to past behavior
Early July Discovering Reboot
Early July Deletion of collection, embarking on Journey
Mid July Developing goals, focus and accountability. Understanding mindset and inner critic. Understanding the value of effort. Discovering the need to love myself. Understanding the benefits of helping others. The importance of generating energy
Mid July Career counseling
Mid July Career course
Late July Insight into PMO, realizing the PMO price, discovering empathy, gradual gaining of self confidence, discovering my life choices were rooted in my negativity. Learning to Let go
Early August Focus on volunteering. But generally depressed for unclear reasons (fearful of failure?)
Mid August Coming clean with her. Discovering the importance of truth, need for inner strength and joy of support of others
Mid August Strong Anger within. Determined resolve never to base life decisions on negativity again. Henceforth and forever, I will follow her route of determined effort, supreme positivity and optimism.
Mid August Clarity that love and happiness are internally generated. Thus we must live fully and pursue sincerely our goals and beliefs. Only in full truth can one be fully liberated from oneself, and begin to live freely.
Meaningful books for me:
Mindset ? Carol Dwerk
Gorilla Mindset ? Mike Cernovich
The Road to Character - David Brooks
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus - john grey
What I Talk About When I Talk About Running - Haruki Murakami
Big Magic - Elizebert Gilbert
Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
The Four Agreements - by Don Miguel Ruiz
The Way Of The Superior Man ? David Deida
May discovery of the woman I love
Early May aggressive meetup with people to discover their life goals and purpose and meaning in life
Mid May Effort to start my engine (failed)
Late May Meeting and falling in love with her
Early June Extreme clarity, Anxiety, hyper mentality, super alertness, mania
Mid June Losing her
Late June Sick, extreme depression, suicidal
Late June Giving up, regressing to past behavior
Early July Discovering Reboot
Early July Deletion of collection, embarking on Journey
Mid July Developing goals, focus and accountability. Understanding mindset and inner critic. Understanding the value of effort. Discovering the need to love myself. Understanding the benefits of helping others. The importance of generating energy
Mid July Career counseling
Mid July Career course
Late July Insight into PMO, realizing the PMO price, discovering empathy, gradual gaining of self confidence, discovering my life choices were rooted in my negativity. Learning to Let go
Early August Focus on volunteering. But generally depressed for unclear reasons (fearful of failure?)
Mid August Coming clean with her. Discovering the importance of truth, need for inner strength and joy of support of others
Mid August Strong Anger within. Determined resolve never to base life decisions on negativity again. Henceforth and forever, I will follow her route of determined effort, supreme positivity and optimism.
Mid August Clarity that love and happiness are internally generated. Thus we must live fully and pursue sincerely our goals and beliefs. Only in full truth can one be fully liberated from oneself, and begin to live freely.
Meaningful books for me:
Mindset ? Carol Dwerk
Gorilla Mindset ? Mike Cernovich
The Road to Character - David Brooks
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus - john grey
What I Talk About When I Talk About Running - Haruki Murakami
Big Magic - Elizebert Gilbert
Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
The Four Agreements - by Don Miguel Ruiz
The Way Of The Superior Man ? David Deida
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
PMO is a lie
we know we are not living in truth
because we know, we become trapped in our own doings
Not only that.
Porn DESTROYS motivation!
Why make any effort when what you desire is freely available instantly???
You become depressed because
You do not have what you want
You can't get what you want
You're not motivated to get what you want
You make no effort to get what you want.
Isn't it terrible?
To be liberated is to live fulling in the truth, accepting all success and failures in the same stride.
To be free is to surrender ourselves fully to our beliefs, efforts, goals. To free ourselves from ourselves, so that in death we are not holding on because we have already given our all.
1. Be Impeccable with your Word
2. Don?t Take Anything Personally
3. Don?t Make Assumptions
4. Always Do Your Best
And never waste time.
The journey in improvement and towards accomplishment is the joy and meaning of life.
we know we are not living in truth
because we know, we become trapped in our own doings
Not only that.
Porn DESTROYS motivation!
Why make any effort when what you desire is freely available instantly???
You become depressed because
You do not have what you want
You can't get what you want
You're not motivated to get what you want
You make no effort to get what you want.
Isn't it terrible?
To be liberated is to live fulling in the truth, accepting all success and failures in the same stride.
To be free is to surrender ourselves fully to our beliefs, efforts, goals. To free ourselves from ourselves, so that in death we are not holding on because we have already given our all.
1. Be Impeccable with your Word
2. Don?t Take Anything Personally
3. Don?t Make Assumptions
4. Always Do Your Best
And never waste time.
The journey in improvement and towards accomplishment is the joy and meaning of life.
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
Fuck negativity, pessimism, depression, whinyness, wimpyness and wussyness.
Your eyes are turned inwards and you are only spending time staring up your ass abyss.
They deny you of all opportunity to see goodness and opportunity and chance this world has to offer !
You wont see it even if it was placed laced with gold on your hands !!!
Know why ? Cos your fucking hands are in that black hole ass with your eyes where light cannot enter !!!
So goddamn stupid !!!
What have you done lately to help yourself ?
What have you done lately to improve yourself ?
This is fucking bright and beautiful world !
Go out and get some !
= PART 2 =
Do you know why you are weak ?
Porn DESTROYS motivation, willpower and the ability to differentiate!
http://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/02/28/hypofrontality/
http://www.knowledgeformen.com/trash-your-porn-quit-masturbating-and-crush-life/
Say NO to porn !
Your eyes are turned inwards and you are only spending time staring up your ass abyss.
They deny you of all opportunity to see goodness and opportunity and chance this world has to offer !
You wont see it even if it was placed laced with gold on your hands !!!
Know why ? Cos your fucking hands are in that black hole ass with your eyes where light cannot enter !!!
So goddamn stupid !!!
What have you done lately to help yourself ?
What have you done lately to improve yourself ?
This is fucking bright and beautiful world !
Go out and get some !
= PART 2 =
Do you know why you are weak ?
Porn DESTROYS motivation, willpower and the ability to differentiate!
http://www.covenanteyes.com/2014/02/28/hypofrontality/
http://www.knowledgeformen.com/trash-your-porn-quit-masturbating-and-crush-life/
Say NO to porn !
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
My whole life of depression, negativity and pessimism has led me to look the wrong way
Instead of looking for opportunity, optimism and positivity
I've learnt to look away all challenges and hide.
I've rarely made the efforts to improve, naturally i rarely have many successes to speak off.
ironically i even discount whatever little successes i have out of a silly sense of humility, so my memories are collections of failures.
No surprise i have little confidence and esteem in everything i do.
I was fearful, avoiding and unimaginative.
I was weak, dependant and indecisive.
No surprise I am not successful.
I think myself out of everything.
I have become a cold and unloving person, living in what I led myself to believe is a cold and unloving world.
These few months I was fortunate to meet many good and loving people, and read many good books.
I slowly evolved my focus, from
goals and achievements
to Self/Skills/$$$
to energy+action
to suffering+meaning+superior man
Today I condense them to the following:
Goals + Surrender + Love
I've lived a long time without goals, that's why i have no achievements to speak of.
That stops now.
My goal now is to work hard and save for a meaningful retirement
To work hard, i must surrender myself to the effort.
To forsake my ego and be one with my new identity
To relook everything i take action on as a positive investment in myself and my future.
To turn every complaint into opportunity
To make every obstacle a chance to improve
And to celebrate every little goal and achievement i make
I will stop predetermining things and only look towards the bright side
I will apply laws of attraction
I will take risks and try new things, and look with open eyes
I will learn to laugh at my failures, and never make them again
I will smile to myself many many times a day
I will be disciplined and make effort, never to waste any more time
I will constantly remind myself how great and wonderful I am
I will be a force of good for myself and all those around me
In doing so, by being focused and engaged, i will develop love for my effort
love for my effort will translate to love for improvement
love for improvement will translate to love for myself
love for myself will expand to love for all around me.
I must let go of myself in order to save myself.
I think this is the right way forward.
Goals
Surrender
Love
PMO is a reflection of my character and outlook in life
It is the character and outlook that needs correcting. PMO will quickly follow.
I apologize for my use of harsh language earlier.
I was angry for not seeing all the detrimental effects I have placed on myself.
It was not directed at anyone but myself.
Please accept my apologies.
Instead of looking for opportunity, optimism and positivity
I've learnt to look away all challenges and hide.
I've rarely made the efforts to improve, naturally i rarely have many successes to speak off.
ironically i even discount whatever little successes i have out of a silly sense of humility, so my memories are collections of failures.
No surprise i have little confidence and esteem in everything i do.
I was fearful, avoiding and unimaginative.
I was weak, dependant and indecisive.
No surprise I am not successful.
I think myself out of everything.
I have become a cold and unloving person, living in what I led myself to believe is a cold and unloving world.
These few months I was fortunate to meet many good and loving people, and read many good books.
I slowly evolved my focus, from
goals and achievements
to Self/Skills/$$$
to energy+action
to suffering+meaning+superior man
Today I condense them to the following:
Goals + Surrender + Love
I've lived a long time without goals, that's why i have no achievements to speak of.
That stops now.
My goal now is to work hard and save for a meaningful retirement
To work hard, i must surrender myself to the effort.
To forsake my ego and be one with my new identity
To relook everything i take action on as a positive investment in myself and my future.
To turn every complaint into opportunity
To make every obstacle a chance to improve
And to celebrate every little goal and achievement i make
I will stop predetermining things and only look towards the bright side
I will apply laws of attraction
I will take risks and try new things, and look with open eyes
I will learn to laugh at my failures, and never make them again
I will smile to myself many many times a day
I will be disciplined and make effort, never to waste any more time
I will constantly remind myself how great and wonderful I am
I will be a force of good for myself and all those around me
In doing so, by being focused and engaged, i will develop love for my effort
love for my effort will translate to love for improvement
love for improvement will translate to love for myself
love for myself will expand to love for all around me.
I must let go of myself in order to save myself.
I think this is the right way forward.
Goals
Surrender
Love
PMO is a reflection of my character and outlook in life
It is the character and outlook that needs correcting. PMO will quickly follow.
I apologize for my use of harsh language earlier.
I was angry for not seeing all the detrimental effects I have placed on myself.
It was not directed at anyone but myself.
Please accept my apologies.
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
Do not dwell on negative thoughts
I will over come my challenges
keep seeking improvements
I will over come my challenges
keep seeking improvements
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
love of myself that arises intrinsically
to be able to do what i want
to be with the people i love
to be able to help others
to be able to learn and improve daily
to accomplish many things a day and keep busy
to experience the beauty of life and nature
to be a wonderful partner, friend, student, teacher to all
to be able to grow old and live each day happily and be filled with wonder and curiosity
to be able to do what i want
to be with the people i love
to be able to help others
to be able to learn and improve daily
to accomplish many things a day and keep busy
to experience the beauty of life and nature
to be a wonderful partner, friend, student, teacher to all
to be able to grow old and live each day happily and be filled with wonder and curiosity
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
Thanks JS,
you understand what I'm trying to do.
My favorite words for each and every day :
I am Great !
I feel Wonderful !
I did so much today !
I learnt new things today !
I made people's lives better !
I have everything I need within me !
This life is great !
you understand what I'm trying to do.
My favorite words for each and every day :
I am Great !
I feel Wonderful !
I did so much today !
I learnt new things today !
I made people's lives better !
I have everything I need within me !
This life is great !
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
No more instant Gratifications
We will NEVER achieve what we want
consequently,
We will NEVER feel happy with what we have
Train yourself for long term thinking and goals
https://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html
http://www.chopra.com/articles/why-instant-gratification-doesn?t-create-lasting-happiness
Summerize:
1. PMO destroys motivation
2. PMO makes you not want to make effort for long term goals
3. PMO makes you not appreciate what you have
4. PMO makes you dislike reality and life in general
5. PMO denies you the opportunity to live in the present
6. PMO denies you the opportunity to enjoy every moment of your life
7. PMO makes you negative, depress and pessimistic
I love life !!!
I hate PMO !!!
We will NEVER achieve what we want
consequently,
We will NEVER feel happy with what we have
Train yourself for long term thinking and goals
https://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html
http://www.chopra.com/articles/why-instant-gratification-doesn?t-create-lasting-happiness
Summerize:
1. PMO destroys motivation
2. PMO makes you not want to make effort for long term goals
3. PMO makes you not appreciate what you have
4. PMO makes you dislike reality and life in general
5. PMO denies you the opportunity to live in the present
6. PMO denies you the opportunity to enjoy every moment of your life
7. PMO makes you negative, depress and pessimistic
I love life !!!
I hate PMO !!!
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
How are you Coffee my friend?
I want to add a little discovery today.
I was eating grapefruit.
I want to peel the skin and make the fruit clean before eating
It was a slow, deliberate and mindful process.
And I realize, if we can slow down our thoughts and actions
be deliberate and mindful of our thoughts,
it should be possible catch ourselves early before cravings take over,
and take corrective action early.
The slope is gentle at first, but gets slippery very quickly
Be Slow, dont rush into things/emotions/actions
Be Deliberate, watch your actions carefully
Be Mindful, be aware where things are heading to
Catch yourself at the gentlest slope and you will be able to make the choice and walk safely back to shore.
I want to add a little discovery today.
I was eating grapefruit.
I want to peel the skin and make the fruit clean before eating
It was a slow, deliberate and mindful process.
And I realize, if we can slow down our thoughts and actions
be deliberate and mindful of our thoughts,
it should be possible catch ourselves early before cravings take over,
and take corrective action early.
The slope is gentle at first, but gets slippery very quickly
Be Slow, dont rush into things/emotions/actions
Be Deliberate, watch your actions carefully
Be Mindful, be aware where things are heading to
Catch yourself at the gentlest slope and you will be able to make the choice and walk safely back to shore.
TakeActionNow
Respected Member
This just pop into my head:
there are many types of addictions
mostly their role is to take ourselves away from ourselves
in our case, it is quite clear
We seek these distractions because
- we do not love ourselves enough
- we are not happy
think about it, why do we crave this "interaction"?
- appreciating the beauty of another human being?
- the idea that an interaction/relationship actually exists between us and the target?
- the idea that the target actually likes us?
These are all rooted in a belief system that there is some form of attraction projected onto us.
Who are we kidding ?
The answer to stop addiction is quite clear :
love ourselves more than what we depend on others to feel loved
This is not about narcissism
It is about basic self love and self care and self awareness.
Taking care of ourselves properly and generating happiness intrinsically is the fundamental step towards freedom of every form.
there are many types of addictions
mostly their role is to take ourselves away from ourselves
in our case, it is quite clear
We seek these distractions because
- we do not love ourselves enough
- we are not happy
think about it, why do we crave this "interaction"?
- appreciating the beauty of another human being?
- the idea that an interaction/relationship actually exists between us and the target?
- the idea that the target actually likes us?
These are all rooted in a belief system that there is some form of attraction projected onto us.
Who are we kidding ?
The answer to stop addiction is quite clear :
love ourselves more than what we depend on others to feel loved
This is not about narcissism
It is about basic self love and self care and self awareness.
Taking care of ourselves properly and generating happiness intrinsically is the fundamental step towards freedom of every form.