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STUDY : HOARDING & ADDICTION 4
Part of the rehab for hoarding is to go though motion to assess if our long held beliefs are valid
hoarders were made to challenge their impulse by exposing to opportunity without action
they needed to experience that their emotional charges and faced with their consequence
The same can be applied with PMO
IF you can endure, this is a very strong treatment
1. consequences.
as it is a private act, we are mostly not accountiable to anyone but ourselves.
however we have shown to be either poor overseers, or that we already have legacy issues that prevent us from seeing clearly.
proper conseqneces is full consequences
just as it is not enough to return shop lifted items back to the store stealthly and unseen, to break the habit, one must give the item back openly and be subject to police investigation. Only then will the full consequence of shoplitting hit the person.
similarily, we need to report our PMO behaviour to our loved ones in order to open this dark secret and recognize the full cost and consequences of our practices
2. Stimulus desensitization
we need to expose over and over again our material WITHOUT RELEASE. This will help us realize that
a. we need not give in to all our impulses
b. the material in fact DOES NOT solve our problems
over time, we will come to realize that this "solution" we believed and practiced is in fact NOT A SOLUTION
and this will help us move away and correct misconceptions
3. restore balance
without distraction now, a few new benefits appear
we have better focus to what matters to us
we have more patience to seek or develope what we need
we can turn inward to rely on ourselves to guide and reward ourselves.
Part of the rehab for hoarding is to go though motion to assess if our long held beliefs are valid
hoarders were made to challenge their impulse by exposing to opportunity without action
they needed to experience that their emotional charges and faced with their consequence
The same can be applied with PMO
IF you can endure, this is a very strong treatment
1. consequences.
as it is a private act, we are mostly not accountiable to anyone but ourselves.
however we have shown to be either poor overseers, or that we already have legacy issues that prevent us from seeing clearly.
proper conseqneces is full consequences
just as it is not enough to return shop lifted items back to the store stealthly and unseen, to break the habit, one must give the item back openly and be subject to police investigation. Only then will the full consequence of shoplitting hit the person.
similarily, we need to report our PMO behaviour to our loved ones in order to open this dark secret and recognize the full cost and consequences of our practices
2. Stimulus desensitization
we need to expose over and over again our material WITHOUT RELEASE. This will help us realize that
a. we need not give in to all our impulses
b. the material in fact DOES NOT solve our problems
over time, we will come to realize that this "solution" we believed and practiced is in fact NOT A SOLUTION
and this will help us move away and correct misconceptions
3. restore balance
without distraction now, a few new benefits appear
we have better focus to what matters to us
we have more patience to seek or develope what we need
we can turn inward to rely on ourselves to guide and reward ourselves.