This is one of the best explanation about how porn masterbation messes us up totally.
1. It's not about sex. It's about self soothing. However it habituates the wrong way to deal with life's challenges
2. Changes the brain to see no joy in the world other than through masterbation.
3. It Neurologically links the brain sexually to ourself for love, happiness, connection and pleasure. It's a self defeating loop.
4. Dopamine deluge floods the frontal lobe that handles working memory, concentration, focus, socialization, judgement, impulse control and reward center.
Consequently, frequent masterbation weakens and slows the frontal lobe, impairing thinking and memory.
5. Frontal lobe reward center desensitized by supernormal visual, mental and physical stimulus, leads to decreased arousal by normal intimacy.
6. Porn is a performance, unlike partner sex which is an experience. We end up associating partner sex as performance, resulting in performance anxiety, leading to ED and stress, making sex unenjoyable.
7. Partner sex has comparably lower mental and physical stimulation. Arousal and ejaculation becomes more difficult. So mental fantasy is needed. We're thus not really having sex with our partner.
8. The partner knows something is wrong, even if they don't know what is wrong. (We're not present)
9. Testosterone spikes up on day 7 after abstinence.
How to stop?
1. Stop watching
2. Pivot plan to decrease stress levels and not to be bored.
3. More mood regulation activities across the day.