jberg
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3rd Reboot, Day 16
Yesterday, I tried to stay connected (to my wife, my kids, my HP) and did so for the most part. Several times I returned to my habit of focusing on my wife's weaknesses and imperfections, rather than looking at her strengths and positive qualities. I need to do this for my sake--when I'm looking at her character defects, it isvery difficult impossible for me to love her. Believe, me--I've tried doing that for much of the past 10 years. However, I have found that when I focus on her good qualities, it is easy for me to love her. It is clear that, today, I have two choices:
#2 has always worked, and has made me happy and her happy. And, it sometimes has changed her!
But an even stranger paradox is why do I keep choosing door #1 in spite of a lifetime of evidence that it just doesn't work for me?
Today, I will pick door #2 as often as possible.
Yesterday, I tried to stay connected (to my wife, my kids, my HP) and did so for the most part. Several times I returned to my habit of focusing on my wife's weaknesses and imperfections, rather than looking at her strengths and positive qualities. I need to do this for my sake--when I'm looking at her character defects, it is
- Focus on her shortcomings and try to change her.
- Focus on her good qualities, and love her.
#2 has always worked, and has made me happy and her happy. And, it sometimes has changed her!
But an even stranger paradox is why do I keep choosing door #1 in spite of a lifetime of evidence that it just doesn't work for me?
Today, I will pick door #2 as often as possible.
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