So these last 80 days have totally changed my views and thinking with women. Along with a more spiritual life of meditation/yoga I’m living from such a happy and loving place now. A lot of that has to do with Nofap too. I don’t see women as just a sexual box to stick my dick into anymore. If one is to approach me I no longer just stare with an open empty mouth going “durrrrr”. I am witty, spontaneous, humorous , and have this child like careless free attitude about me and am much more open.
… But then it hit me. Have I grown that much in just 80 days of nofap? I go to school away from my friends so they don’t see me but every once and a while but I feel so different from them. Like I’ve grown into a place where I see women as my counterparts and not just sexual objects. (Strip clubs are the same as porn in my eyes now. It regressed my progress a little bit, especially with the eye contact, I felt shameful) I want to form real bonded connections with and not to not just use them as a body bag to stick my pipe into.
So my question to you guys is this: have you ever been on this journey and felt like you now need new friends? New friends with a more positive, healthy outlook on women?
…TL;DR one of my best friends thinks I’m gay now cause I don’t want to go to the strip club again and my views with women have drastically changed for the better on nofap. I’ve also grown emotionally and spiritually and now live in a very fun loving space. And now I feel like I need new friends with a better, healthier, outlook on life and women since I feel like I’ve surpassed them in that way
Cute girls I see on the street lost that crazy pull. I see them as people now more and less as objects to possess.
When I see couples walking down the street I used to imagine them in sexual positions, this has completely gone away.
The urge to look at porn-subs, bikini babes is fading. Now I see those girls working it so hard and I feel sad for them and see them as lost souls desperately seeking love and attention and have compassion for them.
I started to see girls as human begins rather than tits and asses.
It’s like… I have a sister and I love her, so somehow I see women young and beautiful ones like her but with sexual attraction. Kind of like someone who I care about and want to protect exactly same, just that one love is different love than other.
Eros and
Philos loves’ in Greek. Basically I just see them as people with feelings, and the sex act is so much more important and potent.
Cause I care now, then I can’t just be thinking about getting lots of girls and pump and dump. Likewise, I will make sure not to let certain women use me too. I see women now, as people who are there to be loved n protected, and guided. And ultimately what they really want deep down, to make a family. So that is the main thing. If we take sex as this serious thing, then it makes everything so much better. And we don’t abuse each-other, and hurt each-other for physical pleasure, release etc. I feel like in Buddhism this sexual lusting filth is a form of violence… And I will not do it again. I don’t say I’ll be a white knight. Far from it, I might even have more than one woman too, but It won’t be just for sex.
I start seeing a woman or a girl not like a toy anymore, or like a slave. I realised that females are human being too. They have a soul too. They need love and attention just like us, males. But how they.re dressed, sometimes really freaks me out. The dresses are more and more shorter, the pants are more and more slimmer, and that just to freak males out. And this is their foul not just ours.
*On an unrelated note* I think one of the best things about these past 90 days, is that at school, I actually have feelings for a girl because of who she is, and not what she looks like.
I see women as actual human beings, like you know they grew up just like the rest of us…
I don’t see women as sexual objects anymore but instead beautiful creatures who are most definitely the fairer sex.
Lastly, my view of women has greatly changed. While I don’t find myself undressing women with my eyes, I do still have a tendency to somewhat objectify them which I’m working on still. However, I will say that the way I see women is drastically changed for the better.
