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jhonjordan

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Hi people

I have 25 years old and I masturbate since I was 15. At first without porrn videos but since 18 years with porn videos.
When I was 17 I tried to have sex with my girlfriend at this moment but it was so bad because I couldnt have an erection.
Since this moment I had have a lot of fear in moments of sex. I tried with another girls but in a lot of times I couldnt have an erection and I choose to masturbate with porn videos.
This point had affected many aspects of my life, the most important thing is that I have lost the confidence in myself.
Last week I found this post and I decide to resolve my problem. Before I found this post i masturbate once a day and since last saturday I had no masturbate
I would like to know what are the next steps to follow

Many thaks
Jhon
 
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Jack Can

Active Member
hello,

Your story sounds just like mine. Honestly what you need to do is just devote about 3 hours of your time to reading everything about rebooting on the yourbrainonporn.com website, this will tell you everything.
 
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jhonjordan

Member
Hello

I had no masturbate for 2 weeks with porn videos and anything
I would like to know if i can masturbate without porn or if it is worst

Thanks

 
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summercicada90

Active Member
1.) Until you absolutely know that you're healed, I would assume that your imagination is still consumed by the images, principles and scripts that it learned and has come to seek from porn. So masturbating on your own would be essentially the same as watching porn, just in your head and not on a screen.
If you haven't watched this video, watch it and pay attention to all the things he says about imagination.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gRJ_QfP2mhU

2.) Even assuming you could imagine normal, emotionally healthy sex from a first-person POV, you still want to train your brain to make your body respond only to women in real life that exist in front of your face right now, and not in the past or future either.
Read this page from YBOP if you haven't read it yet:
https://yourbrainonporn.com/what-about-fantasizing-during-reboot
 
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jhonjordan

Member
Day 21

Since August 14, I have not masturbated.
To my surprise I'm beginning to feel better, especially in dealing with people. I have more desire to talk to people much more than before where I preferred to be alone watching porn or watching movies.
I also feel better at work where my performance has improved.
Regarding my sex life I have not been with any woman and at times when I am alone with the computer I think of masturbating but fortunately I had the strength to not do it.

The question I have to ask is how do I realize that I have finished my restart or when it is advisable to be with a woman. I'm afraid it's too soon and I'll suffer from erectile dysfunction again.

Thank you very much!
 
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jhonjordan

Member
Day 29

In these days without masturbating I have noticed a change in me, in relation to the confidence in myself and in my desire to be better, to defend myself.
I also believe that I have passed the stage in which my sexual desire is gone.
I am beginning to feel desire to have sex, yesterday I was about to masturbate but I was able to resist.

I am meeting a girl, she is very pretty and I like her very well, I hope to prosper in the relationship and in the best of cases to have sex with her.

Wish me luck!!
 
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vince75

Active Member
Good luck man, we can do this! Let us know how it goes with the girl :) Take your time, it's ok to take your time, don't forget this. If you go too fast you might be frustrated because things are not working as well as you imagine :)
 
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