Have you tried ASMR videos?

[martin]

It seems a bit weird at first maybe but it can really help with cravings, and it makes you feel relaxed.

 

[HumbleRich]

You mean those videos where a sexy woman talks to you in sexy whispers while pretending to give you a massage or to pursue you romantically?  That sounds like a.horrible idea.  It will just replace porn as something for you to get aroused by. 

 

[martin]

There is nothing sexual about it, and it doesn't have to be a woman. Don't dismiss something because of your own prejudice.

 

[profapper]

i have started watching these kind of videos aswell and i thaught since the lady is fully dressed their can be no harm right? But i usually get hardons just from the ladies face and talking, maybe becouse its like getting attention from the lady. is this bad?

 

[Pr3c1se]

You are absolutely wrong.  This is a porn substitute. There is no "easy solution" folks.  Get off anything that isn't a real woman.  ANYTHING NOT REAL IS WRONG.

 

[martin]

It works great for me. I am 12 days without pmo now. And it's the easiest 12 days I ever had.

 

[getagrip]

It's porn because it's sexual, digital (as in not real) and overactives the dopamine system just like mainstream porn. You are rationalizing. I am not judging, though, because I used to do the same thing with my Pinterest boards which featured fully clothed women.

 

[chpcbr]

I don't think ASMR is inherently sexual. In some cases there's no human sound or picture involved.

 

[profapper]

i get it though even getting pleasure from a girls attention digitally is harmful

 

[Pr3c1se]

It works great for me. I am 12 days without pmo now. And it's the easiest 12 days I ever had.

It makes sense it's the "easiest 12 days you've ever had" becasue you found a porn replacement.  You're not helping your argument right now, just FYI.

We've all done this before.

 

[profapper]

i just hate putting myself out there with talking to random girls cus i have to entertain them and i always run out of things to say than they lose interest. i hate small talk cus the stuff i think about is too deep to entertain people with. anyone else feel that way?

 

[getagrip]

OK, now you are being productive in your thinking! You are getting to the real issue of your ambivalence about approaching women. A huge percentage of the guys on here, including myself, fall into this category. You are definitely not alone. We turn to porn because it's easier than asking a real woman out. Maybe the porn also dulls the pain we feel from being without a signficant other.

Now you are on the right track. Might be a good idea to start a journal of these feelings you're having.

 

[Pr3c1se]

Its OK if you're not into small-talk, you just need to find a girl who's not into small talk

OR

Practice makes perfect!  Just keep doing it, and you'll get better.  Find out which conversations work, and which lead to dead ends.  Just be excited and ask questions, women love to talk about themselves and they love a man who is genuinely interested.

 

[Pr3c1se]

He hits the nail on the head iwth "Rebooting sucks".... if it doesn't suck for you, then you're not doing it right. haha.  That's FACTS


Although I disagree with you not looking at your own wifes cleavage.  You should be sexually attracted to your wife.. I mean it's your wife. lol  Like don't treat her like an object, of course, but you shoudl desire her.


My rule of thumb?  Real woman, go for it..... Anything not real, don't.

 

[Pr3c1se]

I totally get it.  It's not easy.  Only you are in your situation and fully understand what you need to do!  We can only give so much advice, so take whatever people say with a grain of salt   Just providing my two cents!

 

[martin]

Yeah they don't understand. It's funny how some people are so confident in their ignorance.

Sometimes it can help in the moment with cravings, just when you take your mind of it by choosing an activity to do. Instead watch an asmr video and the positive effects like feeling calm and relaxed help.

 

[Reboot_Dude]

I've used these, regardless of how innocent they are/claim to be, they never fail to get me rock hard and horny as hell. They will also link you onto even more sexual videos and ASMR YouTubers that are also camgirls... They have caused me to relapse before more than once.

Do not watch them.

 

[Pr3c1se]

I am not ignorant.  I am a successful rebooter who comes back from time to time to help others.  Are you?  No, you're not?  Perhaps you should listen to my advice and not your own.  Do not call me ignorant again.

I just googled this "ASMR" garbage to see if perhaps I didn't understand, and of course it was what I expected.  Stay away from it and stop making excuses.

 

[Jones]

Martin. You need to listen to Pr3c1se. he's giving you some real advice here. I've seen those videos before and they are almost like porn. So avoid them.keep in mind.....you don't have to listen to any of us....but you can if you choose to,make the right decision dont be dumb.

 

[profapper]

hes right no more excuses we need to meet face to face with the real thing. my problem isnt rebooting its after the reboot when i have absolutely no women interaction skills, and porn is the only way to experience a women, and so the cycle continues...