Nick Simons
Active Member
Hey Joe,
Yes I have noticed the lull as well - although I don't have a lot of history here to compare against. Appreciate all your posts though bro! ... keeps me coming back to check in, read the flow of thoughts (although I don't always post comments), and most importantly has created a sort of loose accountability network / outlet which I find has been a big part of keeping me sane these last 3 weeks.
Also, I just wanted to pick up on the point you made a few days ago when you said, "Now that I am becoming quite successful in many areas of my life or appearing to be living a much more "normal" life some are having a hard time coping with that. It sort of goes to show you how bad off the human condition really is at times."
So far in my 20 day stretch, no one in my direct interactions has expressed any difficulties coping with the "new me", ... but I have noticed a few times where people have been a bit surprised (pleasantly) by what I have said or done (i.e. I feel I am becoming more accepting and giving now vs. when I was living in "zombie mode" before when I was living with my old porn habits).
It may just be too early for them to see real changes happening in me, but it is a great "heads up" for me to be aware of so that when I start to hear people making comments (even if meant in a constructive way) I need to be open / flexible to the reality that I'm not the only one who is going to be changing - my evolution to the new me will also cause others to change as well ... and people generally don't like to change (even if it is for the better).
Anyway, I think the learning for me is just to be aware that this is on the horizon and to go with the flow as others go through their own change cycle as I am processing mine. Thanks for your insights.
Yes I have noticed the lull as well - although I don't have a lot of history here to compare against. Appreciate all your posts though bro! ... keeps me coming back to check in, read the flow of thoughts (although I don't always post comments), and most importantly has created a sort of loose accountability network / outlet which I find has been a big part of keeping me sane these last 3 weeks.
Also, I just wanted to pick up on the point you made a few days ago when you said, "Now that I am becoming quite successful in many areas of my life or appearing to be living a much more "normal" life some are having a hard time coping with that. It sort of goes to show you how bad off the human condition really is at times."
So far in my 20 day stretch, no one in my direct interactions has expressed any difficulties coping with the "new me", ... but I have noticed a few times where people have been a bit surprised (pleasantly) by what I have said or done (i.e. I feel I am becoming more accepting and giving now vs. when I was living in "zombie mode" before when I was living with my old porn habits).
It may just be too early for them to see real changes happening in me, but it is a great "heads up" for me to be aware of so that when I start to hear people making comments (even if meant in a constructive way) I need to be open / flexible to the reality that I'm not the only one who is going to be changing - my evolution to the new me will also cause others to change as well ... and people generally don't like to change (even if it is for the better).
Anyway, I think the learning for me is just to be aware that this is on the horizon and to go with the flow as others go through their own change cycle as I am processing mine. Thanks for your insights.