quit for good

[joepanic]

Patterns totally changed Triggers easily managed it almost feels like I was never a porn addict. but i know I was one it sucked but it is what it is. Thank god for a wife who loves to have sex with me. She does not only think about her own needs or views(most of the time anyway) She tries to work as a team(again most of the time) As I have said before It is always important for everyone in any situation to move forward. That is real progress

 

[joepanic]

I wonder if Gabe will ever come back to his site here or he has beaten the addiction and moved on with life Will the forum ever open to new members or will it be under maintenance forever

 

[Percival]

Patterns totally changed Triggers easily managed it almost feels like I was never a porn addict. but i know I was one it sucked but it is what it is. Thank god for a wife who loves to have sex with me. She does not only think about her own needs or views(most of the time anyway) She tries to work as a team(again most of the time) As I have said before It is always important for everyone in any situation to move forward. That is real progress

That is great news Joe! Hope it continues on for the rest of your life!

 

[Pazienza]

I wonder if Gabe will ever come back to his site here or he has beaten the addiction and moved on with life Will the forum ever open to new members or will it be under maintenance forever

I was thinking the same thing a while back. It feels like a dead forum, honestly. It's a shame that nobody can sign up so we can get some new blood in here.

Plus, what happened to the moderators? There's things you can't do without their "approval" and they seem have disappeared.

I dunno. It's sad. But what can you really do

 

[joepanic]

I was thinking the same thing a while back. It feels like a dead forum, honestly. It's a shame that nobody can sign up so we can get some new blood in here.

Plus, what happened to the moderators? There's things you can't do without their "approval" and they seem have disappeared.

I dunno. It's sad. But what can you really do

Not sure where the moderators went. Only one I ever saw over the years was Gracie and even she seems to be gone recently

 

[Pazienza]

Not sure where the moderators went. Only one I ever saw over the years was Gracie and even she seems to be gone recently

There was that dude Androg who was on here a while back. But he was kind of a prick lol. He pissed me off several times, and I recall other people having similar sentiments about the guy. I actually stopped posting here for a long time because of his constant nonsensical input, so I can't say that I miss him

 

[joepanic]

There was that dude Androg who was on here a while back. But he was kind of a prick lol. He pissed me off several times, and I recall other people having similar sentiments about the guy. I actually stopped posting here for a long time because of his constant nonsensical input, so I can't say that I miss him

I remember that guy never really had any problems with him. I did have issues with Gracie though and her constant guilt trips that porn addicts were nothing but homewreckers. And that porn addicts left nothing but a trail of destruction for partners in their wake. I am sure she will be back someday though.

 

[Pazienza]

I remember that guy never really had any problems with him. I did have issues with Gracie though and her constant guilt trips that porn addicts were nothing but homewreckers. And that porn addicts left nothing but a trail of destruction for partners in their wake. I am sure she will be back someday though.

I do remember that now that you mention it.

 

[joepanic]

Not much resources being put out these days but I guess if there are no new members there is no point

 

[joepanic]

It's difficult to keep the conversation running these days with no new members coming in. Much of what is posted (including by me) is somewhat repetitive or not helpful anymore. A lot of what we are experiencing day to day. Most of us have been here for several years. I would be curious as to what quote or technique or piece of advice or whatever you found most useful. I think for me it was not so much to worry about porn itself or in counting the days (which of course we have all done) but in exploring why I even went to porn in the 1st place and dealing with those issues. They were the real devil that needed to be defeated

 

[Escapeandnevercomeback]

It's difficult to keep the conversation running these days with no new members coming in. Much of what is posted (including by me) is somewhat repetitive or not helpful anymore. A lot of what we are experiencing day to day. Most of us have been here for several years. I would be curious as to what quote or technique or piece of advice or whatever you found most useful. I think for me it was not so much to worry about porn itself or in counting the days (which of course we have all done) but in exploring why I even went to porn in the 1st place and dealing with those issues. They were the real devil that needed to be defeated

I understand completely what you mean.

 

[joepanic]

Trying not to be repetitious these days as most of you know my story which is not very different from many here. Only change these days is I am going to begin working with a personal trainer to get into better shape physically and mentally

 

[joepanic]

Wham Bam thank you ma'am

 

[joepanic]

Very strange these days. I suddenly find myself at 19 days of no MO and it was not something I had consciously being working on. Just haven't really found the need to do it. I'm thinking it might be the longest I have gone without that in 10 years or more. I have seen more than enough "material" online or tv or where ever( not porn or anything like that) that at one time would have produced a flood of triggers. I think perhaps it might be that I am slowly working out all the boogaloo in my life and in my relationship with my wife. The things that used to really frustrate me. Perhaps they are the real triggers

 

[GBS]

Nice one Joe. Who knew that stopping masturbation would unlock freedom?

 

[joepanic]

It is very strange. Never in a million years did i ever think I would just "stop" MO I just sort of felt it was part of my identity. Being 53 years old we were taught in school sex ed that "it is a perfectly normal" thing to do. Well to me it never felt normal i tried to find ways to make it normal but it just never felt that way. In fact I always felt there was something wrong with me. I was nothing but "weak" perhaps that's the way the system wants us to think

 

[joepanic]

3 weeks no MO I am at that point where i don't feel a "necessity" to do it anymore. I don't feel the need to "relieve" any pressure. Nothing really triggers me. If I see something online that starts to get me hard or I wake up with morning wood or whatever, it does not occur to me to grab hold and take care of it. I am in unknown territory. I am almost scared as to what the future might hold for me on this front. I am also quite excited about the whole idea. Curious how this will affect sex with my wife. We shall see

 

[Percival]

3 weeks no MO I am at that point where i don't feel a "necessity" to do it anymore. I don't feel the need to "relieve" any pressure. Nothing really triggers me. If I see something online that starts to get me hard or I wake up with morning wood or whatever, it does not occur to me to grab hold and take care of it. I am in unknown territory. I am almost scared as to what the future might hold for me on this front. I am also quite excited about the whole idea. Curious how this will affect sex with my wife. We shall see

All good news! You're getting to where you are in control of your feelings instead of the other way around, which is always healthier (but just like eating healthy, it's much easier to do it the other way).

 

[joepanic]

On the eve of one month no MO I am not sure I have achieved that since I was 12. Still at a total loss as to how this is taking place. I think not being given guilt trips by a certain member here has allowed me to concentrate on what is important. At the moment there has been very few [posting on my journal but I must say every one of them has been encouraging and supportive. just how a detox from a drug should be conducted. A big thank you to you all

 

[GBS]

Hey @joepanic - I presume whilst you’re not MOing, you are still having sex with your wife, right? If so, the no MO thing could be forever, can it not?