So did I, I think these sensations and responses are certainly more normal, certainly then reaponding to P with MO, Im right there with you, having sex with my wife but have thrown in 2 MOs over a 5 week period, compare to daily PMO. I believe a reinforcing measure is being able to MO without any P or any facsimile of P!So a total of 5 weeks exact no m. A record for sure. Now I m'd last night but not to porn . just sort of did it. I feel indifferent about it and don't really think of it as a big deal. I was not actually trying to abstain from it. It was just going about life and that's how it played out. I have no urge to do it again at the moment. Guess I'll see how it goes moving forward
Healing does not take place in a lineal line
Yes NYC I think the narrative needs to change. This should not be about being a porn addict. It should be about becoming the men we need and want to be Let me ask you what to you have and what endeavors do you aspire to that make you the man you want and need to be. I don't want to hear about how you abstain from porn. i want to hear about the things you are doing to be a man Glad to hear I am inspiring you cheers@joepanic the timing of this and the meaningfullness, of what should be so obvious but is not when in the grip of self destructive behavior of any sorts. Your post was able to help me turn around, because I have experienced everything you describe, only to have let it go 2x now. I truly feel "normal" , good about myself, my relationships, and life when not consuming porn and false self pleasure. Thank you!
Regrets.... That was a big one for me. It took time but I came to the realization that what happened to me throughout my life was not always my fault even some of the choices were made out of necessity. They were coping mechanisms. Probably kept me from really doing damage to others. The damage was caused mainly to myself. There were probably a few indirect effects such as I could have been educating myself better instead of hanging on a computer or in front of a vhs tape and tv screen. Perhaps I would have had a better job which of course may have benefited others. In the end I did the best I could with the cards I was dealt. Even with that deck I always tried to improve myself while others who were given a better hand squandered it. It's hard when some will never be able to recognize thatGiving generous attention and listening to those I Love, sharing my talents for the betterment of others, having a mind and heart clear and clean of any regrets. Appreciating what I have and realizing everything I have is a gift from God. These are what I aspire, need and want, oh a single digit golf handicap too!