It's mentioned many times here the hurt that a porn addict causes to a partner, and yes all of it is true. But that is the only hurt that is allowed to be discussed here at rebootnation. Many times an addict might mention how their partner might have hurt them in some way along the way but it really doesn't get discussed in any depth, Porn addiction needs to be a much wider conversation. Less judgmental and a more supportive. I mention this mainly because the mandate of this site is to help people rewire their brains by supporting them while they withdraw from porn. But many of the topics seem to gravitate towards fixing relationships or fixing the damage to partners. Unfortunately an injured soldier can't drag another injured soldier off the battlefield
I think that this is an unfair and highly inaccurate caricature of Reboot Nation.
I think that you're seeing things through a very specific lens, one that's based on certain interactions that you had with the opposite sex, here in your journal and in the partners section. But your perception is colored if not warped by those interactions, particularly your feelings surrounding them.
The whole existence of Reboot Nation is the healing of the hurt (both psychological and physiological) caused to (mostly) men and women. And we (men) get to discuss it all the time in helping each other.
That controversies are typically shut down isn't some kind of prejudice
against men and
for wives of rebooters. It's just simply good administration. We all have healing to do, and these sidebar controversies can become distracting and obfuscating of the purpose of this place, which is toward all our healing.