Need Motivation!!

pokeyday

New Member
I'm now 17 and a half years old, and I've been into porn since I was probably 14. It started off as just once a week, whenever my parents weren't around, and moved up to pictures on an old mobile. Once I got my laptop/Iphone, it's turned into once or twice a day, every day.

At one point, a girl I was dating and I got frisky in the back of my truck, and I couldn't even get hard when she tried to suck my dick. I hope she didn't realize anything was wrong there, it was her first time doing anything like that as well as mine, but I realized something was seriously fucked up with me. With these thoughts I was able to stay off porn for about 3 weeks, but once I relapsed I started making excuses to continue watching porn. I really need help on staying motivated to stay away from porn, and when I found this site I figured this might be it.

I guess what I need is a tangible reason to stay off of porn, or somebody who can help me be accountable to my mistakes when I relapse.
 

punkrocker

New Member
You already have ED, isn't that motivation enough? When you have a girlfriend, she will undoubtedly break up with you if she can't have sex. That's harsh, but the truth. And think, the greatest feeling of your life, having sex with a living, breathing female awaits, not just watching fake videos of it on the web. Porn is very fake, by the way. You should try to stop watching porn BECAUSE THEN YOU CAN GO DUCK WITH HOT CHICKS. Can't do that with ED, can you? Besides, this isn't about motivation, it's about self control. You are addicted. You don't need motivation, you already have it. You must dedicate yourself to NOT watching porn. Wake up next morning absolutely determined to not watch porn that day. If you can't stop for even a few hours, you need professional help.
 

fugu

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One thing that helped me get started into my reboot was remembering my life goals and how PIED interfered with them: I wouldn't be able to have a girlfriend, fall in love, get married, have kids, etc. It put pressure on me, but it also motivated me and has worked great.
 
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alexbkennedy96

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Here's what's helping me stay off, I am absolutely in love with my girl. The thought of not being able to not properly make love to her? I cannot stand it, yet its the truth. Every time I feel the urge to give in, (tell my self just one last time then ill really start) I think of her, and how much it will mean to her when I come through this and truly am able to make love with her. I also either do a minor work out (20 pushups, 30 situps) or a 5-10 minute meditation when I have nasty urge.
Stay strong @pokeyday
 
Yes, i had sex once, and was barely able to get hard, especialy with a condom on! it was terrible. still i kept relapsing, but in the end it wasnt wort it. The best motivation for me is seeing others quit along side me, and the possibility of not getting an erection with a girl absolutely terrifies me  :'( Think of yourself as a warrior man, in a war against porn (sounds cheesy, but we're all on the same page here lol), everyday, every week, every month you stay off this poison we call porn, your a true warrior, with great strengths. Just remember, its all in your head. Good luck ;)
 
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