DavS
Active Member
Yes, ups and downs for sure, thanks JerryTX. Staying away from PMO is actually the easy part. Coming to grips with what I’ve done, and working through all the horrible consequences of it is the hard part. I can’t ask my wife to trust me after all the lies. Maybe she shouldn’t trust me, it’s hard to trust myself knowing the lies I told myself, but some level of trust is necessary In a relationship.
On the positive side my wife and I are making progress. More talking and more karezza are helping. I have a healthy libido now and that helps too.
Its been about a month, and I feel like I’m past the withdrawal and habitual part of the addiction. Porn takes advantage of the primal chemistry of the brain, and I drilled that fucked up arousal pathway. So I have no illusions about having beaten the addiction. Everyone is susceptible to this addiction because we’ve all got the brain chemistry that it’s based on, especially men. I think it’s a hidden and extremely widespread epidemic. We also have the brainwashing that it’s no big deal. Who is going to address the problem if there is no problem and everybody is using it? Men are not the only victims. I read that the average life expectancy of a porn “star” is 31.
On the positive side my wife and I are making progress. More talking and more karezza are helping. I have a healthy libido now and that helps too.
Its been about a month, and I feel like I’m past the withdrawal and habitual part of the addiction. Porn takes advantage of the primal chemistry of the brain, and I drilled that fucked up arousal pathway. So I have no illusions about having beaten the addiction. Everyone is susceptible to this addiction because we’ve all got the brain chemistry that it’s based on, especially men. I think it’s a hidden and extremely widespread epidemic. We also have the brainwashing that it’s no big deal. Who is going to address the problem if there is no problem and everybody is using it? Men are not the only victims. I read that the average life expectancy of a porn “star” is 31.