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DIMA-NBA

DIMA-NBA

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Day 21

I'm slacking at work despite the no PMO streak. Sometimes I think of abstinence from PMO as a fix for all my issues. Unfortunately that's not exactly the case.

Another issue with my man - I was neglecting it for over a week in hopes it'd heal on it's own, but to no avail. I went to a urologist this morning. One week without sex as per "doctor's orders".

I don't want to be a moaner, but as of right now I feel gray. Alone from my department at the office, my work ethic is bad when I'm alone.
 
GBS

GBS

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Not sure if this perspective will help, Dimmers, but look at it this way: abstinence from PMO is fantastic in and of itself, but what this is is a brain fix. That is what you’re doing. So if you can don’t allow your brain to be treated elsewhere (through masturbation or other distractions) and be kind to yourself because you’re doing yourself much good. Things don’t magically get all better instantly. The reality is that it takes consistent discipline for a long (ish) period of time. Summary- be positive and patient and kind to yourself. You’re doing good. Real genuine hard fought for, white knuckle, mind fucking good!
 
DIMA-NBA

DIMA-NBA

Active Member
Day 34

I'm under the weather. I had a dream that I PMO again. I had an urge just now. Still holding on strong.

My gf is going to start living with me. I have a tough, uncomfortable conversation coming up. It's about money. I'm ashamed to share with my gf for over a year how much I make, regardless of the fact that she has told me how much she makes.

I'm worried that she thinks I make more than I actually make. Basically I make a bit more than her (when counting my benefits package). Maybe I should just be transparent and tell her the truth, but I am afraid. Any advice will be appreciated!
 
GBS

GBS

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Mate. You don’t need advice. You know precisely what to do. Complete honesty. She shouldn’t judge you based on your income. She may do a bit, because I realise we all do that a bit - don’t worry, I wasn’t born yesterday - but the alternative is to tell an untruth and deceive her accordingly. That isn’t just wrong, but it just becomes a burden for you and that you do not need.

So that may be unhelpful because it doesn’t make life easier for you, but you know I’m right. Good luck, you’re more of a man than you were a few months ago, so you will do it right. Cheers GBS
 
Blondie

Blondie

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Hey @DIMA-NBA, I whole heartedly agree with @GBS. The truth and nothing but the truth is what's needed here. A good woman will understand. As it currently stands, I'm not making more than my Lady at the moment, however, she sees me working constantly to improve my position and future, which in the end, is what's important. Do you have drive? Are you fighting to improve yourself and thus, your relationship as well. These qualities are what most women want, so I wouldn't worry about the exact number you make and more about your general attitude towards life.

Just my thoughts.
Best
 
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