CloseToToast
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Hi Everyone,
I am glad this forum exists and that I am not alone facing the scariest journey I have ever had to embark on. After researching for about a month and watching the RebootNation YouTube videos plus many others. I am quite convinced that I am experiencing PIED. I find absolutely baffling that I was completely unaware that this result could incur because of the habit of masturbating to port! I am looking to see what everyone thinks about my history, if it could be PIED, and how to make a reboot plan vs winging it.
A little back story: I am 32, overweight, trying not to be a smoker. and have been using porn to masturbate daily to blowjob porn almost primarily since I was an early teen. In college I would either use porn daily, sometimes twice a day or be with my girlfriend or the fling of the week. Thinking back to college PIED or Performance Anxiety began because sometimes I would have successful sex or I wouldn't work at all. I would achieve a full mast erection but then quickly go down when vaginal sex began. Oral sex would almost always work. Shortly after college i met my now ex wife. She was new and exciting so I would work most of the time but then others again no dice I would go limp shortly into vaginal play with Oral Sex still achieving climax. Sometimes i would go half soft during the oral but then if she changed it up renewed success. As time progressed over our 7 year marriage it became evident i had some sort of issue. My ex wife was scared of getting pregnant even on birth control so I would also by her request never orgasm internally via vaginal sex. We stopped engaging in sexual activity and i compensated by masturbating more. And my tastes did become more extreme. Getting frustrated at not being able to have vaginal intercourse. I would have to self service myself to the point right before climax and finish inside of my ex wife to conceive my daughter. Isn't having sex supposed to be fun? LOL. I didn't know what was going on. I began going to the doctor, ruled out blood pressure, heart disease, my circulatory system obviously isn't 100% with smoking but no hard damage yet, cholesterol and testosterone are normal, no diabetes etc etc. Definitely some situational anxiety and depression due to recent divorce but not daily or weekly even.
I have a new girlfriend of 2 months and i really started to get worried when I was unable to perform with her even though i am really turned on and desire nothing else than to please her. I even got Viagra from my doctor and it worked the first time but has done absolutely nothing since. No lasting erection after initial hardness, i go soft after a few minutes. However again if my GF performs oral sex, every time up until last week she was able to have me achieve climax easily. My thought is that i have desensitized myself to vaginal sex and sex in general due to porn but since my biggest turn on is oral sex that that still works sometimes?
Some symptoms i exhibit are:
Loss of erection during vaginal sex
Loss of erection standing up
Almost 90% of the time I don?t get hard when using imagination, if I do I can?t climax ever unless I force and strain a soft penis climax.
Increased/varying/escalating porn trends over the last few years
Periods of not getting hard to porn
About a year ago I was able to get hard and climax insanely fast, within a minute or 2 if I wanted to.
But at the same time i still:
Get morning wood every so often maybe 2 times a week.
Sometimes achieve climax via oral sex
I do get hard and climax to porn sometimes
I hope all of the above is helpful in generating thoughts ideas responses. I already have gone 3 weeks without porn but i am still trying to engage in sexual activity with my girlfriend even if not successful. I am not sure where to start with a reboot if PIED is truly what i am facing. I understand that it takes time and i am willing to do what is needed because this cannot be the rest of my life, no way shape or form.
should i go atleast a month without in person sexual activity and wait for my first wet dream since i was 12? or is engaging in attempts at activity with my GF truly helping re-develop the correct pathways. I somehow feel though i need a breather to rebalance. Just not sure how long to start off with?
I hope to hear your thoughts on if it is PIED or a mix between situational performance anxiety or a mix etc. Thanks for being here!!!!!
I am glad this forum exists and that I am not alone facing the scariest journey I have ever had to embark on. After researching for about a month and watching the RebootNation YouTube videos plus many others. I am quite convinced that I am experiencing PIED. I find absolutely baffling that I was completely unaware that this result could incur because of the habit of masturbating to port! I am looking to see what everyone thinks about my history, if it could be PIED, and how to make a reboot plan vs winging it.
A little back story: I am 32, overweight, trying not to be a smoker. and have been using porn to masturbate daily to blowjob porn almost primarily since I was an early teen. In college I would either use porn daily, sometimes twice a day or be with my girlfriend or the fling of the week. Thinking back to college PIED or Performance Anxiety began because sometimes I would have successful sex or I wouldn't work at all. I would achieve a full mast erection but then quickly go down when vaginal sex began. Oral sex would almost always work. Shortly after college i met my now ex wife. She was new and exciting so I would work most of the time but then others again no dice I would go limp shortly into vaginal play with Oral Sex still achieving climax. Sometimes i would go half soft during the oral but then if she changed it up renewed success. As time progressed over our 7 year marriage it became evident i had some sort of issue. My ex wife was scared of getting pregnant even on birth control so I would also by her request never orgasm internally via vaginal sex. We stopped engaging in sexual activity and i compensated by masturbating more. And my tastes did become more extreme. Getting frustrated at not being able to have vaginal intercourse. I would have to self service myself to the point right before climax and finish inside of my ex wife to conceive my daughter. Isn't having sex supposed to be fun? LOL. I didn't know what was going on. I began going to the doctor, ruled out blood pressure, heart disease, my circulatory system obviously isn't 100% with smoking but no hard damage yet, cholesterol and testosterone are normal, no diabetes etc etc. Definitely some situational anxiety and depression due to recent divorce but not daily or weekly even.
I have a new girlfriend of 2 months and i really started to get worried when I was unable to perform with her even though i am really turned on and desire nothing else than to please her. I even got Viagra from my doctor and it worked the first time but has done absolutely nothing since. No lasting erection after initial hardness, i go soft after a few minutes. However again if my GF performs oral sex, every time up until last week she was able to have me achieve climax easily. My thought is that i have desensitized myself to vaginal sex and sex in general due to porn but since my biggest turn on is oral sex that that still works sometimes?
Some symptoms i exhibit are:
Loss of erection during vaginal sex
Loss of erection standing up
Almost 90% of the time I don?t get hard when using imagination, if I do I can?t climax ever unless I force and strain a soft penis climax.
Increased/varying/escalating porn trends over the last few years
Periods of not getting hard to porn
About a year ago I was able to get hard and climax insanely fast, within a minute or 2 if I wanted to.
But at the same time i still:
Get morning wood every so often maybe 2 times a week.
Sometimes achieve climax via oral sex
I do get hard and climax to porn sometimes
I hope all of the above is helpful in generating thoughts ideas responses. I already have gone 3 weeks without porn but i am still trying to engage in sexual activity with my girlfriend even if not successful. I am not sure where to start with a reboot if PIED is truly what i am facing. I understand that it takes time and i am willing to do what is needed because this cannot be the rest of my life, no way shape or form.
should i go atleast a month without in person sexual activity and wait for my first wet dream since i was 12? or is engaging in attempts at activity with my GF truly helping re-develop the correct pathways. I somehow feel though i need a breather to rebalance. Just not sure how long to start off with?
I hope to hear your thoughts on if it is PIED or a mix between situational performance anxiety or a mix etc. Thanks for being here!!!!!
