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My name is Sumit Sharma. I am staying in India, in Gurgaon away from family due to job. My age is 44 years. I have spoiled my life due to porn addiction and smoking. Due to porn addiction, I could not get an erection, when doing intercourse with my wife.  Due to my mistakes, my marriage is on the rocks and my wife is not on talking terms with me. According to her the only reason our marriage is saved is due to the fact i am away from her and she feels irritated whenever i am in front of her and also because we have a 9 year old daughter. I have tried to quit smoking and watching porn many times but unsuccessful each time. I think loneliness is the main reason. I have always been a fitness enthusiast. I do 1.5 - 2 hours of weight training 6 times daily and walk for 30 minutes every day. I am cold turkey on porn for last 4 days.

My query is that what should i do when i feel to masturbate. For last few days I am masturbating watching photos of girls and not porn. Is this correct or wrong. Kindly guide. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks and Regards,
Sumit Sharma
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Hi sumit sharma ?
Welcome to this forum.
To put it simply you should not masturbate to images of women. Any FOR of artificial stimulation is very bad. Even if they're just photos it's still artificial stimulation and is still contributing to yor addiction.
There's nothing wrong with masturbating, but DO NOT do it to images or any other artificial stimuli.
I don't know enough about your marriage to advise you on that part, but as for the porn I can tell you honestly to stop it now before you develop any more bad habits
This forum is a great place to get help for your problems and I encourage you to post any questions you may have


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Welcome Sumit,

So sorry to hear about the frustrating situation with you wife.

Personally, I have had to stop everything. I stopped porn but I found that masturbation seemed to always take me back to porn. So I vowed to stop everything (except making love to my wife) for90 days. I figured it wouldn't kill me, but sometimes the feelings to masturbate are very strong. Exercise is good. Changing your lifestyle in any way is good. You have to almost substitute something else (healthy) for the unhealthy.

This is a good place to start. The people here are caring and supportive and we all understand where you are in this journey.

Please keep it up. It is well worth it in the end.