How does that seems to you?

[mpkl]

First of all, i am trying to quit porn completely for over 3 years. Nowadays im into a 10 month relationship with a girl trying to quit p habit and cure PIED which i made it and now having successful sex. Yet pied isnt cured completely i cant have sex mutliple times in a close period. After a 15days period of having sex like 30 times i relapsed into porn in a 2 Day binge. Felt like it was drowning me again into it but managed to stop it and now im on 8 Day Hard Mode streak (means no sex too).       

So the thing is that i told my girlfriend that i want to improve more our overall relationship with a 60 days Hard Mode. She happily accepted it. I think this is what Will cure my pied once and for all. Consider that my Best streak is 28 days of Hard Mode. Done many streaks before that. 7 months i tried with some relapsed between. So my question is.. How does that seems to you?

 

[doneatlast]

hard mode is the way to go, my only caution would be the embedded assumption that 60 days will cure everything.  Time spans are arbitrary and vary from person to person.  If you're in a relationship it will likely take longer.  In my experience, emotional/psychological things often need to be worked out, detachment from fetishes/kinks and so on, learning to see your partner as more than a real-life porn star, all of those things can take much, much more time.  I don't mean to be discouraging, but be mentally prepared for it, because there is no guarantee day 61 will have you 100% free of the problems of porn.

 

[Fappy]

Hi mpkl,
Your plan sounds good. Am I correct in understanding that the trigger for your last relapse was because you couldnt have sex multiple times a day? You can have successful pooning but have trouble getting hard the next go? Might not be PIED then, could be just from overuse. Anyway, what are / were your triggers?

 

[mpkl]

I really dont know what my trigger was.. I think it was sleep deprivation. Well i can have sex twice or thrice a Day but only if i havent tried sex for days.. As i go performance declines.. I know there is more to be cured and a little Hard Mode would make things better or atleast hope so..

 

[mpkl]

DoneAtLast yeah i dont see 60 as a magical number. The point is to go Hard Mode for a period of time with out Oing even with my gf to make things better. Even after relapsed i had long streaks without it and got detatched from it but not completely. I feel like a good streak in General Will make my pied and my brain better.. I Will back updating in a couple weeks

 

[Mroctupus]

Freudian psychology calls it a castration trauma. Ofcoarse it?s very exaggerated as most Freudian theories. The basis stand on the vagina on female and think they lost their penis in a trauma so they become horrified and as for kid more body means more power that?s why in extreme cases men get to liking other men or build fetishes to distract them unconsciously. This is exaggerated ofcoarse but we tend to partialise woman maybe for trauma that Freud said or some other reason into body parts so we don?t have to deal with complexity of a whole person. Porn help in that as it gives the parts a role and completely dehumanize them. The innate dislike gets aggravated by different movement as MGTOW and like mentalities. I think a therapist can help you to resolve the unconscious problem with opposite sex

 

[mpkl]

What does fraud has to do with this??No offence but i dont think i have problem with opposite sex i would like to read a out what you saod. Can you prpvide me with a book title or so?

 

[Mroctupus]

What does Freud have to do with sexuality? His entire work was on sexuality and it?s effect on human psychology frompenis envy in girls and casteration trauma in boys. You can simply google it and you find sources. In modern psychology is more behavarial based because as they found out that finding problem doesn?t solve it and practices needed to change a behaviour. I have to say at the end this is how I saw it, you can do whatever you wish with it.

 

[Fappy]

Fuck Freudian psychology. I don't remember him saying anything about PMO! Just stick to the reboot, keep posting on this forum and asking for advice, and eliminating triggers. Psychology and all the psycho-babble balls might be all well and good, but there is a simple method:
DONT FUCKING CLICK ON THAT LINK TO A PORN SITE
That's the most straightforward method, and Im sure if Mr Freud were alive today he would agree with me

 

[mpkl]

HAHAHAH you just nailed it and i find that to be the thing too..Anyway thanks both for your tips ! <3