libido come back to me yo

buddha

Member
hi there,

> 35 years of age
> no committed long term relationship for 7 years
> ED problem occurred shortly after relationship ended and thats when I started using porn pretty heavy
> use of viagra with encounters from that time period until present is common

Im a regular attending gym/fitness guy so how could this happened to me ?! I went to my doctor did all the tests and Im in perfect health according to him. For the last 7 years Ive been seeking herbal remedies for assistance with my problem. They help, but not 100% or its not consistent. Im not sure if my only problem is porn induced ED however I have classic symptoms such as no erectile problems  during porn however without that comfortable porn induced environment I have troubles with libido and erections.

I became aware of this website with my tv on in the background while I was at my computer doing?.well you know. I thought id stop for a min and watch. I have a really good positive feeling about this. Im taking the step I want to be cured.

So now Im here joining the challenge with you guys

My reboot begins today on my member registration date...

question; is total orgasm supposed to be avoided? I read one person using the reboot approach however was still having sex with his girl. So that would mean no porn for him however I also am gathering part of the reboot is to limit over-exposure to dopamine hormone levels in the brain.

Im up for any challenge but would like to fully understand rules

thank you
 

fugu

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To answer the total orgasm question: it depends. Some people have recovered while having orgasms with their girlfriends (they generally took an extended period away from orgasms, though). You should really test it out for yourself and see how you feel! Most people agree that the fastest and surest way to reboot completely is without orgasms, though. The rule are whatever gives you the right results!
 

Androg

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It's a bad idea to put any sexual performance pressure on yourself while you're recovering. On the other hand, skin-to-skin affection with a sweetheart is always beneficial. Maybe tell your partner in advance what you're dealing with so she doesn't mistakenly try to rush you into anything. She could read this: http://yourbrainonporn.com/boyfriend-quitting-porn-5-tips

Also, learn about the flatline so you don't get surprised. It's a natural part of the healing: http://yourbrainonporn.com/i-quit-porn-but-my-potency-and-libido-are-decreasing-help

Good luck! You'll be fine.
 

buddha

Member
wow,

now that second link was super informative and will prepare me mentally. I could totally relate to the part of just jerking it to test my performance ability. Im kind of in the middle of two battles at the moment. One being porn induced ED and the other being candida cleanse. A drop in my erection power or gain, sleep patterns, headaches, fatigue are usually how I gauge how a new supplement treating my candida is acting in my body. I was thinking of maybe just testing of erectile power/firmness before O but I think I read somewhere in that article thats even worse, something to do with prolonged dopamine. I will have to re-read that section.

thanks
 

buddha

Member
so looks like I've hit day 7. My libido felt pretty speradic the first few days, from nothing to feeling a little spike. Todays different though. My libido is pretty charged up and I could easily knock one off without porn and just my imagination which was almost impossible before. Since day one I have found more confidence in my step. Almost like my chest is puffed out a little more and Ive actually noticed I've been chatting it up with a lot more ladies at the gym without even hesitation, completely natural. I wonder if I were to knock one out if that feeling would be gone temporary? Im gonna stick with the no knocking off period for now. As long as I keep myself busy It seems to be managable. 

 

macondo

Member
I hear you about libido, I just discovered RN also, and I have a problem with porn induced ED. I was prompted to find some sort of help two weeks ago when I was with a very attractive girl and couldn't maintain an erection. This has happened a few times over the past year, and I use Viagra/Cialis, ect. When I was younger, I had a super strong libido and very strong erections, but as my p use and m increased, I think it's destroyed both. I was m'ing up to 7 times a day, it was terrible.

I'm in week two of my reboot, excited about the prospect. My libido is sort of there, it's a bit scary because I'd like to confirm that I can get an erection again, but I'll have faith in the process.

Good luck everyone on this site, this is a great resource.
 

buddha

Member
i find it odd how we both need that confirmation for ourselves so we know it still work. Its an ego thing I guess. I did the viagra thing also and the times I never used it and did bang a lady shed be like whats wrong.. I still managed to bang her and it was a huge success to my ego but she was used to basically my D doing all the work with no stimulating help from her.
 

macondo

Member
Well you write in some pretty hard terms, but I think in terms of confirmation, that's a key part of this site because many of us have relied on P for so long to cause that stimulation or get hard and masturbate, and the ability to have a strong erection is very masculine/ego driven, and to lose that can be devastating. So it helps to read about other's experience here, and how RN ultimately helped them get that ability back naturally, without the use of P.
 
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