Hi guys
Just wanted to get your thoughts on this. I talked to my counsellor about this site the other day and how it involved no p/mb for 90 days to reboot your brain. He liked the idea of the no p, but thought the no mb was just going to cause me more problems. He thinks mb is a good 'release valve' for my arousal. He is a sexual health counsellor with a lot of experience.
I'm not sure I agree with him. I mentioned to him that I had gone 45 days with no p/mb (which was the longest I've gone without mb for my *whole life*) and that I had felt extremely anxious and aroused. Ie massive withdrawal symptoms. He suggested that if I had mb then I probably would have felt less aroused and stressed. At the time I thought he was right but going back through my diary, I realise I had had sex with my partner just two days before my relapse. In other words, my anxiety/arousal didn't appear to be because I needed an orgasm/mb. It was because I needed porn.
I've read similar things on this forum of guys who don't crave mb at all during their reboot - what they want is porn. That was exactly my experience. And the most surprising thing was that even after really good sex with my partner, I *still* wanted porn like a crack addict wants crack. In retrospect that is shocking.
the last point is that during my last reboot I decided to try what my counsellor suggested. I had gone about 7 days without p/mb. On Thursday I was feeling a bit horny so I decided I'd mb on Friday morning to 'release some steam'. I did. And then on Friday night I relapsed. Fail. To me it seems obvious that mb is just a ... secondary function of the porn addiction.
Can you guys please let me know what you think of my counsellor's advice based on your experience? thanks
Just wanted to get your thoughts on this. I talked to my counsellor about this site the other day and how it involved no p/mb for 90 days to reboot your brain. He liked the idea of the no p, but thought the no mb was just going to cause me more problems. He thinks mb is a good 'release valve' for my arousal. He is a sexual health counsellor with a lot of experience.
I'm not sure I agree with him. I mentioned to him that I had gone 45 days with no p/mb (which was the longest I've gone without mb for my *whole life*) and that I had felt extremely anxious and aroused. Ie massive withdrawal symptoms. He suggested that if I had mb then I probably would have felt less aroused and stressed. At the time I thought he was right but going back through my diary, I realise I had had sex with my partner just two days before my relapse. In other words, my anxiety/arousal didn't appear to be because I needed an orgasm/mb. It was because I needed porn.
I've read similar things on this forum of guys who don't crave mb at all during their reboot - what they want is porn. That was exactly my experience. And the most surprising thing was that even after really good sex with my partner, I *still* wanted porn like a crack addict wants crack. In retrospect that is shocking.
the last point is that during my last reboot I decided to try what my counsellor suggested. I had gone about 7 days without p/mb. On Thursday I was feeling a bit horny so I decided I'd mb on Friday morning to 'release some steam'. I did. And then on Friday night I relapsed. Fail. To me it seems obvious that mb is just a ... secondary function of the porn addiction.
Can you guys please let me know what you think of my counsellor's advice based on your experience? thanks