workinprogressUK
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jixu said:If it is true that relationships alone are not enough to satisfy my inner needs, it poses a practical problem: what should or can I do about it? Some possibilities come to mind: get drunk, watch porn, surround myself with pets, escape into the web, pour out my heart to God, book a flight to Vegas, follow every move and news item of the British Royal family. I am sure there are others as well. For me, I like the pouring out my heart to God option the best. Anyway, just pondering today.
65 Day Clean
It's a great post, Jixu. Brings us back to a commonly-discussed theme and one that JoePanic kind of touched on recently; Addiction fills up a heck of a lot of our life, like a cuckoo chick in a blackbird's nest, filling up all the available space and pushing out anything that competes for attention, until it's the only thing left. And in toppling that big, noisy, ugly, cuckoo out of our nest, we create a big vacuum that needs to be filled. And it can't all be filled by other people. We have to find healthy alternatives that keep us engaged and stimulated, to avoid the vacuum being filled by booze, P, gambling, food or "non-purposeful web usage". I'm so far away from cracking that nut myself. Novelty only seems to last so long. But I think the key is that some of the new things need to come from inside us, rather than from other people, via relationships. thanks for making me think about it