True2Myself
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One of my main triggers after giving up porn has been these damn fantasies, some of them would last just a few seconds, but others when my brain is "idle" , like when trying to fall asleep, and often involved long detailed fantasies. It would rarely lead to full blown Fapping, (more like a fondling, or what I would refer to as mind-masturbation.
I'm on day 62 of my reboot and surprisingly the fantasies are now fading away, and I'm guessing it's the neuropathways in my brain restructuring, and not crying out for that little squirt of Dopamine.
In a way it is like letting go of "an old friend", one that I could visit with people all around me, and no-one ever had a clue. In my early stages of reboot I would still go to that all familiar "happy place", even though I knew better, but because I had been fantasizing for 10+ years it was a hard place to give up visiting.
So there is a bit of a melancholy here, but I now am noticing that because they are fading that my brain is (finally) healing.
I just wanted to share this amazing breakthrough I'm experiencing! If anyone else has the same problems with fantasies, it may take awhile, but they will fade away and die as long as you don't continue "feeding" them!
I'm on day 62 of my reboot and surprisingly the fantasies are now fading away, and I'm guessing it's the neuropathways in my brain restructuring, and not crying out for that little squirt of Dopamine.
In a way it is like letting go of "an old friend", one that I could visit with people all around me, and no-one ever had a clue. In my early stages of reboot I would still go to that all familiar "happy place", even though I knew better, but because I had been fantasizing for 10+ years it was a hard place to give up visiting.
So there is a bit of a melancholy here, but I now am noticing that because they are fading that my brain is (finally) healing.
I just wanted to share this amazing breakthrough I'm experiencing! If anyone else has the same problems with fantasies, it may take awhile, but they will fade away and die as long as you don't continue "feeding" them!