Escapeandnevercomeback
Respected Member
I know how it goes, man. I'm coming from there. I know the place of despair very well. When things don't go well, you feel very sure that you will never escape this. I binged my fuckin brains out since the beginning of this month until September 12. I was in exact same place, my streaks didn't even reach day 5. But now I'm on day 8 and today I felt better for the first time in 20 days during this month. What I'm saying is that it's possible to bounce back and get momentum, it's always possible but you need a short-term tactic to use. One short-term tactic to do as many times as necessary, one day at a time, until it gets easier. As Simon said, this is an addiction and I believe that urges are, at the core of everything, withdrawal. It can get complicated, but we must keep in mind this is not us, this is not our sexuality, this is not our sex life, this is withdrawal. Withdrawal gets easier with time, urges get better with time but we need a tactic to use. Every time I have success with my streaks is because of my "Keep the dopamine low - 2 seconds" rule. There is a quote, I don't remember exactly who said it and how the exact quote is but it goes something like: Between the trigger and the action there is a space and this is where the freedom is. This space is the "Rule of 2 seconds" for me. It's detaching/distracting yourself from the (hyper)sexual thoughts of porn as soon as possible, we got about 2 seconds. And it works.