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GeminiMan

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You're not wasting anyone's time here, GM! You're here for you, and we're here for you! Be patient and understanding with yourself, any addiction isn't made over night, nor is it overcome in a day. It takes time. Just always get up, and keep trying.
Thanks for your kindness @Phineas 808

I highly doubt I deserve it though ! For the kind of jerk I am being from time to time . receiving all the useful suggestions and tips and tricks and ideas to keep away from P from you all and knowing the down side of P binges as well and warnings from my wife as well !

But when the time comes to stop myself those bad instincts and urges , I have always failed and under performed and been a Jerk who throws away all sensible thoughts into trash can and binges on P without any considerations into what it is eventually leave me with !

That’s the problem I am seeing in me!
Lack of honesty with myself !
Lack of love for my well being !
pleasure seeking trumping every other areas of my life !

It’s not how it should be ! But unfortunately it is right now !

Hope I had done better all these years and up until including today in stopping myself and realizing the importance of and loving the reason why I stop my myself from P access and enjoy being sober in my day to day and love the benefits of sobriety, realize it and get glued to it like a permanent tattoo!

I want to inculcate these positive attitudes into my days weeks and months and years !

Day 1 tomorrow
 

GeminiMan

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Day 5

Either you run your day to day to help drive P out of the day or the day runs you to get P inside your day”
 

Phineas 808

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Good job at course correction, GM!

Be mindful, nonjudgmental, but aware of possible urges for a “repeat performance” later… a kind of “chaser” of sorts.

Just being aware, even accepting, makes the behaviors “less sticky”- or, they just pass on easier.

Best.
 

GeminiMan

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Good job at course correction, GM!

Be mindful, nonjudgmental, but aware of possible urges for a “repeat performance” later… a kind of “chaser” of sorts.

Just being aware, even accepting, makes the behaviors “less sticky”- or, they just pass on easier.

Best.
Thanks @Phineas 808
The pause this moment for a while technique helped last night to bring in a big picture view of what was going on . And that was sufficient to escape the urges from sticking up to my mind .
Looking forward to cruise along using this pause technique and strengthen the core of my sobriety!
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Thanks @Phineas 808
The pause this moment for a while technique helped last night to bring in a big picture view of what was going on . And that was sufficient to escape the urges from sticking up to my mind .
Looking forward to cruise along using this pause technique and strengthen the core of my sobriety!
That's right, you can wait for a while, like give yourself 15 minutes before acting out. You can tell yourself: "If I'm to access porn or chatrooms anyway, I will do it in 15 minutes). This delaying of gratification is an exercise. Gratification can be delayed. Dopamine can be managed, it can stay in green by not giving attention to the thoughts. All this can be trained.
 

GeminiMan

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So I slipped into chatroom again today on day 6
It’s an annoying bad habit I have which also needs to e broken .

spent about 2 hours chatting sometimes filthy feeding the urges . That was bad I shouldn’t have done it . Then as if it Were not enough I slipped into cam site and then spent time looking at cam girls and then somehow stopped myself disappointed closed down everything and came here .

it was a rough day indeed my head is buzzing !
I won’t recover or stay sober by accessing P content or chatrooms .

I need to help myself come out of this abyss .
It’s hard but I want to get back to low urge levels and cruise along sobriety.

I need to stay mindful of what am I doing . I need to be careful not to slip yet again to big day 0.

it’s hard but I can do it if I don’t let myself fall !

rough day 6
 

GeminiMan

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Day 1 today

My last relapse could have been avoided had I done well in sticking to

#2 #3 #9 and #10

my reboot foundations -
1. Avoid procrastination (leads to stress build up and seek comfort in P)
2. Avoid Overeating (this is a cue for me to relapse)
3. Avoid Hanging out with phone unnecessarily
4. engaging in interesting hobbies projects enough so that I don’t have time for other non sense such as P or chatrooms
5. Stop Thinking that I cannot stop or pull myself back when triggered by P thoughts .
6. engaging with wife in real life sex regularly with planned date nights regularly
7. Avoid Thinking wrongly that I need P to be happy and thriving .
8. follow a daily discipline schedule that works for me .planning my next day/week and adhering to it .
9. Avoid Not going to sleep early .lurking awake
10. Stop Thinking I am not responsible for small actions
 

GeminiMan

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Relapsed on day 6

causes for relapse was I didn’t do well on
#2 #3 #7 #9 #10

my reboot foundations -
1. Avoid procrastination (leads to stress build up and seek comfort in P)
2. Avoid Overeating (this is a cue for me to relapse)
3. Avoid Hanging out with phone unnecessarily
4. engaging in interesting hobbies projects enough so that I don’t have time for other non sense such as P or chatrooms
5. Stop Thinking that I cannot stop or pull myself back when triggered by P thoughts .
6. engaging with wife in real life sex regularly with planned date nights regularly
7. Avoid Thinking wrongly that I need P to be happy and thriving .
8. follow a daily discipline schedule that works for me .planning my next day/week and adhering to it .
9. Avoid Not going to sleep early .lurking awake
10. Stop Thinking I am not responsible for small actions
 
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