Recovery is an incredible process

faenoe

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I've got to share something with anyone who reads this thread. I'm reading 12 Rules for Life by Jordan Peterson and I just came across this paragraph while reading:

"Sometimes things do not go well. That seems to have much to do with the terrible nature of the world with its plagues and famines and tyrannies and betrayals. But here's the rub: sometimes, when things are not going well, it's not the world that's the cause. The cause is instead that which is currently most valued, subjectively and personally. Why? Because the world is revealed, to an indeterminate degree, through the template of your values. If the world you are seeing is not the world you want, therefore, it's time to examine your values. It's time to rid yourself of your current presuppositions. It's time to let go. It might even be time to sacrifice what you love best, so that you can become who you might become, instead of staying who you are."

I couldn't help but understand this through my own situation battling pornography. It's clear right now that deep down I really value watching porn (thus making it so difficult to quit!), but I need to change that value if I want to become who I can become. I need to recognize porn for what it really does to me. It makes me feel like a loser.

I remember growing up and seeing my mom be repulsed by even the slightest appearance of sex on tv or advertisements. Now it makes sense why. She knew that an appetite for watching or seeking out porn was not a good thing at all. I want to learn to turn away whenever porn presents itself.
 
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