Great job, the first urges after a relapse are just crazy. Couldnt remember them being so bad. Fighting off the first waves is already a big step.I didn’t relapse though
Great job, the first urges after a relapse are just crazy. Couldnt remember them being so bad. Fighting off the first waves is already a big step.I didn’t relapse though
Good job my friend keep fighting, avoid triggers at all cost and go to sleep early if possible. And try not to stay at home as long as possible. Wish you the best!No urges lately, we will see how I feel at day 45-50 area again
Binges drain ourselves like crazy. I need a lot of days to recuperate from something like that. I spend more than a week in flatline symptoms.back to drowning. was making decent progress then I had a massive binge this weekend essentially trying to get around the blockers or doing stupid stuff. God, i feel like shit. I don't even know if I can have sex right now.
I don't know how long I will need at least a week. Thanks for responding actually stopped from relapsing again.Binges drain ourselves like crazy. I need a lot of days to recuperate from something like that. I spend more than a week in flatline symptoms.
Great, man! Stopping before the relapse disrupts the cycle.I don't know how long I will need at least a week. Thanks for responding actually stopped from relapsing again.
Sometimes I forget how detrimental is for me to think too much about the future. I always sabotage myself thinking like: "90 days is a lot, man! I can't resist for that long!" But the thing is, our mind can't tolerate many days but it can't tolerate "the now". Let's make it until the end of the day and repeat tomorrow. We actually need to make this process as simple as possible, we don't need to complicate ourselves.Pick yourself up and dust it off man. See if you can get through the next few days, don't look too far forward. Just take it one step at a time.
Sometimes I forget how detrimental is for me to think too much about the future. I always sabotage myself thinking like: "90 days is a lot, man! I can't resist for that long!" But the thing is, our mind can't tolerate many days but it can't tolerate "the now". Let's make it until the end of the day and repeat tomorrow. We actually need to make this process as simple as possible, we don't need to complicate ourselves.
Yes, exactly. You made it to one month which is longer than your previous effort but you can still see it as a failure because you didn't reach 90 days.So true. Also, if you set a long goal, e.g. 90 days, it’s really hard when you don’t meet that goal, even if you just did one month porn free and made progress from your last streak.
Yes, I am in the "porn-blockers dis-empower us" camp too. It's the same, in my opinion, with all the cold showers, go for a run, do push-ups etc. tactics too because all of them are external solutions. What happens when you can't do them, for whatever reason? If you don't have an internal mechanism to deal with urges, you will not last long in the long term. This needs to come first, an internal way to deal with urges. The rest are good additions but they should not be the only thing.I know everyone has their different approach, but I think that porn-blockers actually disempower us, and keep the fight ‘out there’, rather than about you and your choices ‘in here’, where real change occurs.
Yea, this is why I was trying to make a habit of dealing with urges. The goal ultimately would be to uninstall all the blockers and essentially become good at dealing with urges. For me, I just want to get to 90 days so the urges become somewhat more manageable. I need space between them so i have a chance to deal with it. At the moment, I am just like in autopilot and I find myself back in the porn holeI know everyone has their different approach, but I think that porn-blockers actually disempower us, and keep the fight ‘out there’, rather than about you and your choices ‘in here’, where real change occurs.