First time posting here. Want to get rid of this. I heard support helps.

Jeks

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Avoid fantasizing. For me this is definitely my most important way to affect the severity of my own urges.
 

k-fff

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back to drowning. was making decent progress then I had a massive binge this weekend essentially trying to get around the blockers or doing stupid stuff. God, i feel like shit. I don't even know if I can have sex right now.
 

k-fff

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tired of my head wanting dopamine and myself losing control like that. I am gonna give myself pied at this rate.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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back to drowning. was making decent progress then I had a massive binge this weekend essentially trying to get around the blockers or doing stupid stuff. God, i feel like shit. I don't even know if I can have sex right now.
Binges drain ourselves like crazy. I need a lot of days to recuperate from something like that. I spend more than a week in flatline symptoms.
 

96LostWanderer

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Pick yourself up and dust it off man. See if you can get through the next few days, don't look too far forward. Just take it one step at a time.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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Pick yourself up and dust it off man. See if you can get through the next few days, don't look too far forward. Just take it one step at a time.
Sometimes I forget how detrimental is for me to think too much about the future. I always sabotage myself thinking like: "90 days is a lot, man! I can't resist for that long!" But the thing is, our mind can't tolerate many days but it can't tolerate "the now". Let's make it until the end of the day and repeat tomorrow. We actually need to make this process as simple as possible, we don't need to complicate ourselves.
 

96LostWanderer

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Sometimes I forget how detrimental is for me to think too much about the future. I always sabotage myself thinking like: "90 days is a lot, man! I can't resist for that long!" But the thing is, our mind can't tolerate many days but it can't tolerate "the now". Let's make it until the end of the day and repeat tomorrow. We actually need to make this process as simple as possible, we don't need to complicate ourselves.

So true. Also, if you set a long goal, e.g. 90 days, it’s really hard when you don’t meet that goal, even if you just did one month porn free and made progress from your last streak.
 

k-fff

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back in the cycle. its been everyday for three days straight. god, putting on blockers became a mistake. The only solution is to just cut off internet completely on my phone. The computer is thankfully not a place for relapsing.
 

k-fff

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covenant eyes is good for the computer, but pretty terrible on phones better to just use iphone's built in filter and just cut off the whole internet except some article websites. There is much else to do. I feel like shit. Today is day 0 again.
 

Phineas 808

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I know everyone has their different approach, but I think that porn-blockers actually disempower us, and keep the fight ‘out there’, rather than about you and your choices ‘in here’, where real change occurs.
 

Escapeandnevercomeback

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I know everyone has their different approach, but I think that porn-blockers actually disempower us, and keep the fight ‘out there’, rather than about you and your choices ‘in here’, where real change occurs.
Yes, I am in the "porn-blockers dis-empower us" camp too. It's the same, in my opinion, with all the cold showers, go for a run, do push-ups etc. tactics too because all of them are external solutions. What happens when you can't do them, for whatever reason? If you don't have an internal mechanism to deal with urges, you will not last long in the long term. This needs to come first, an internal way to deal with urges. The rest are good additions but they should not be the only thing.
 

k-fff

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I know everyone has their different approach, but I think that porn-blockers actually disempower us, and keep the fight ‘out there’, rather than about you and your choices ‘in here’, where real change occurs.
Yea, this is why I was trying to make a habit of dealing with urges. The goal ultimately would be to uninstall all the blockers and essentially become good at dealing with urges. For me, I just want to get to 90 days so the urges become somewhat more manageable. I need space between them so i have a chance to deal with it. At the moment, I am just like in autopilot and I find myself back in the porn hole
 
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