ShadeTrenicin
Well-Known Member
Thanks a lot for the kind words Phineas 808! It means a lot.
I will also check out your 6 core and 30 special questions to see if I can implement some of them in my approach as well.
Today is day 6.
When reading my post of yesterday I forgot to add a big part of things that have helped me. And that is the 6 Point Plan that I (sort of) came up with myself.
To reiterate:
1. Recognize the urge
2. Allow that the urge is there (you cannot will it away, let it be and analyze it)
3. Investigate why the urge is there (is there something inside of you that makes you resort to PMO?)
4. Realize that the urge is temporary
5. Recall the feeling of emptiness after a PMO wank
6. (optional if the urge is really strong) Resort to an emergency activity such as sports, anti-sexual activities, other hobbies.
Today I started the day out positively; abs challenge, push up challenge and a couple of minutes of meditation.
Then when starting working (From home) I made a list of things to do today to give some structure to the day.
I'm not yet at the point where I can make massive lists, but for now I will keep it at the most fundamental things Ill have to do for the day.
I did forgot to make my If list. So when I had an urge (which I always have when I work from home as I'm high up in the attic with noone to bother me) I just took a shower and rubbed it out. Taking a quick decisive action like that feels good as I now know I won't wast any energy on PMO.
So, I'm feeling motivated but I do feel the tendency to deviate from my plan a lot. This is because I'm also currently in a hyperfocus about some construction work of the house. We're thinking about expanding the house and basically reconfiguring the entire layout of the house so that it becomes more efficient. But that involves building an extra appendage to the house, moving walls (which in dutch houses is not as easy as in American houses as all the walls are stone) reorientating the stairs / staircase / completely new layout of the second floor where we expand our bedroom as well and creating a new bathroom. Etc, etc, etc, I really really really like construction work so having an office job is somewhat conflicting haha. But for now I have a massive hyperfocus in detailing everything out in Sketchup and for the technical parts in a 3D cad environment.
However, I do also like my actual profession so after writing al of this down I will make a nice planning for the afternoon for me to work on.
That's it for now.
I will also check out your 6 core and 30 special questions to see if I can implement some of them in my approach as well.
Today is day 6.
When reading my post of yesterday I forgot to add a big part of things that have helped me. And that is the 6 Point Plan that I (sort of) came up with myself.
To reiterate:
1. Recognize the urge
2. Allow that the urge is there (you cannot will it away, let it be and analyze it)
3. Investigate why the urge is there (is there something inside of you that makes you resort to PMO?)
4. Realize that the urge is temporary
5. Recall the feeling of emptiness after a PMO wank
6. (optional if the urge is really strong) Resort to an emergency activity such as sports, anti-sexual activities, other hobbies.
Today I started the day out positively; abs challenge, push up challenge and a couple of minutes of meditation.
Then when starting working (From home) I made a list of things to do today to give some structure to the day.
I'm not yet at the point where I can make massive lists, but for now I will keep it at the most fundamental things Ill have to do for the day.
I did forgot to make my If list. So when I had an urge (which I always have when I work from home as I'm high up in the attic with noone to bother me) I just took a shower and rubbed it out. Taking a quick decisive action like that feels good as I now know I won't wast any energy on PMO.
So, I'm feeling motivated but I do feel the tendency to deviate from my plan a lot. This is because I'm also currently in a hyperfocus about some construction work of the house. We're thinking about expanding the house and basically reconfiguring the entire layout of the house so that it becomes more efficient. But that involves building an extra appendage to the house, moving walls (which in dutch houses is not as easy as in American houses as all the walls are stone) reorientating the stairs / staircase / completely new layout of the second floor where we expand our bedroom as well and creating a new bathroom. Etc, etc, etc, I really really really like construction work so having an office job is somewhat conflicting haha. But for now I have a massive hyperfocus in detailing everything out in Sketchup and for the technical parts in a 3D cad environment.
However, I do also like my actual profession so after writing al of this down I will make a nice planning for the afternoon for me to work on.
That's it for now.