Hey EW,Lust. What is the added value of lust?
Letting go of P was/is hard for me because there is this feeling of loss. Like giving something valuable up.
But is lust, P really valuable? What is the highest outcome that can be had from P?
I think I just changed something in my value system. By seeing lust and P as not valuable. I am having it a whole lot easier time to let it go.
The way society is conditioned, lust in some ways is attributed to success. And purity to failure. Now purity is present as - not having pleasure. This is totally inaccurate.
Lust vs Purity. What gives the highest outcome?
I think purity very much has pleasure for a partner in a loving relationship. Something solid. Unlike lust that is always fleeting, the best is always around the corner, the best P scene is just around the corner,...
Seeing P as something of low value. This is helpful. Really, what is the highest outcome P can bring me?
Is it valuable to my life if I dismiss P scene right away or if it is very sticky and keeps coming back, Is it valuable to my life if I just redirect my attention to my heart?
I'll start looking at redirecting my energy to the heart as something valuable and looking at P as something of very low value.
I want to comment on this a little. Especially about the lust. Perhaps it helps if you can be more specific about what you mean with lust. Because lust in itself can be defined as either a sexual desire or as an exaggarated sort of affection.
The sexual desire lust is a perfectly healthy function of our body and one that is needed for the perpetuation of our species, while the other is a non healthy one that leads to negative experiences.
So I don't know in which context you are talking but I hope the non healthy affection sort. I say this out of concern as you sometimes see men who vilify everything that has to do with sexual attraction because that is the only way for them to create control over their addiction. This in itself can then lead to misguided constructs about sexuality that can possibly harm them in a way different to P-addiction.
Good luck my friend