I hear this a lot that we should feel the negative feelings but I don't know why or how. I thought when we feel sad we should do something (not P) to change our mood, like for example walk outside, take a cold shower, etc.
I feel sad and down a lot these days. And I don't know how long these feelings will last and when we will start feeling better, I mean what is the timeline for that.
Hi, Gigili.
In terms of feelings, I'd say we can put them at least in 2 groups.
1) The feelings we have that are a result of something immediate and don't cause us any emotional wounding or soul fragmentation. E.g. having a bad day at work or something like that. Here i'd say it is very helpful to go outside, play, take a cold shower, etc. Change our frequency and vibration. Shake it off. We can let this go.
2) The feelings we have stored up that are a result of abuse, shock, trauma and devastation. This are emotional wounds. E.g. our intimate partner that we trusted has an affair. Or when we as a teen our parent died. This is very emotionally traumatizing. I am picking some extreme cases to make a point. There is a full spectrum of this. Also some of the emotional wounds and fragments can be carried from past lives. This is not something we can just shake it off and let go - at least not in the majority of cases.
In case of the 2nd where we are dealing with emotional wounds/fragments. This is not something to shake off. So in this case going for a walk, cold shower is helpful as a preparation for us to face this.
How to feel?
Intend it. I want to feel my emotions. This is it and stick with it. Things will change. Maybe not right away or the way we want but they will change.
For something like 3 months I am focusing on my heart center. It was just like a blank space there. Just recently I am getting like an ember of energy starting to light up there.
In terms of timeline everyone is unique, but I'd say from a couple of months to a couple of years.
Why do we need to feel? Because it is part of who we are. We are a thinking and feeling being. It is about balance of the male and female inside us. Too much feeling not good, too much thinking not good. But a balance of feeling and thinking is what will give us a meaningful and joyful life. Also self-acceptance. If we deny our emotions, if we run away, we are denying parts of ourselves. We are half a being this way. Not going to work.
Also in terms of emotional wounds. They will heal if we feel them and observe them. It makes no sense to the rational mind. We are just feeling and observing our emotions? We are not doing anything!? Wrong. We are holding space for the emotions to sort themselves out. They are intelligent they are conscious. This process is not pleasant and requires a certain level of maturity but we will be able to understand and let go.
In terms of practicality. Hooponopono and Mirror work is very good.
For example if some experience from my past comes up. Like being a kid alone in my room playing a particular scary computer game or watching P. I send love (to the best of my abilities) and talk to that kid, I am sorry, Please forgive me, I love you, Thank you. That kid is me, but that kid is also here and now. This is all stored in my cells and organs. Our physical organs also store the emotional energy from the past and emotional wounds. In my experience this is released trough holding space. This stuff will come up when we are ready to face it.
Maybe you are ready to face some stuff? It will take as long as it takes. In the process you get lighter as the emotional wounds get healed.
Imho: This is the real emotional alchemy. We get sad, we hold space (non-judgement, loving), then possibly cry and then we feel better. The holding of space can be a bit of a challenge.
But in my experience it is extremely rewarding to intend to master this. This is a bit like urge surfing but for emotions. When we are in this space we can then do the Hooponopono or something else.
Hope this is helpful
EW