I am frustrated.. Trying for 3 and half years now...!

Do or die

Respected Member
Relapsed again. Now I understand my mistake completely. Porn ended my peaceful life till now. Now I understand how porn changes everything of a person. There views on girls everything changes. Yes from today I will leave . Yes now I will completely stop PMO. Because I have gift of pmo as PE. I want to cure it
 

casanova

Member
Relapsed again. Now I understand my mistake completely. Porn ended my peaceful life till now. Now I understand how porn changes everything of a person. There views on girls everything changes. Yes from today I will leave . Yes now I will completely stop PMO. Because I have gift of pmo as PE. I want to cure it
Hi, I see you're struggling to keep up with a longer streak of at least 60 days hardmode.
Have you tried psychotherapy? I would suggest some cognitive behavioral therapy. Search for some and invest on it. I'm sure is the very best way to use your money right now. Have science and professionals by your side, and your life might be much much better in a few months from now.
Wish you all the best there!
 

smeagle44

Member
Hi, I would suggest you start going to SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) meetings. You can find them online on Zoom if you search for them. It's a twelve step program like Alcoholics Anonymous. They have really helped me.
 

Phineas 808

Respected Member
Hi, Do! Many will have different approaches, and everyone's path is different.

My advice would be to avoid (like hell) anything too complex, involving too much money and time. Therapy may be useful if you need it, but the bottom line is this:

Your behaviors are habituated, meaning that there's a well worn groove in your brain that's now used to you doing things a certain way that, eventually (maybe predictably), it gets it's dopamine hit.

Hack into your own addiction, change it up. It doesn't have to be anything too drastic, but change something (anything) little by little, make it to where what typically leads you into PMO is different, to where it disrupts, interupts and throws off the addiction.

What time do you usually PMO? Change that time. Is it where you put your phone at night? Change it's location. Is it a pc monitor? Make it face a different direction before bed. Or, power it all the way down... Is it bringing your phone with you into the restroom in the middle of the night? Don't bring it with you. You are your best study, you know your routine better than anyone else, use that to your advantage.

Keep going, Do! Your tenacity is inspiring, but don't just do the same old, expecting a different outcome. It takes more than will power alone. Study your repeatable habits, habits that surround the unwanted habit, and change this thing!

You can do it.
 

AJM

Active Member
Hey brother,
Day 3 is great.
Let me tell you your willingness to continue for 3 and 1/2 yrs inspite of setbacks is commendable.
Do you thik it would be better if you also write down
what efforts you have put into helping yourself ??
write down your struggle and pains,
Share your vulnerabilities and struggles.
Hope that helps . Regards.
 

Do or die

Respected Member
Mate, why do you think you're relapsing? What's happening before the relapse?
I got urges. So I am relapsing. I am thinking that it's just day 1 , I will start again . And because of such wrong thinking I am relapsing so much this days
 

Dannybou

Active Member
I got urges. So I am relapsing. I am thinking that it's just day 1 , I will start again . And because of such wrong thinking I am relapsing so much this days
That's tough man. Maybe check out this video if you have the time:

It's a technique called mental contrasting which helps me commit to different goals. Good luck.
 
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