fcjl8 said:Agreed!!
Not only is his streak amazing. LTE is amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for all of the kind words but it's not amazing, it's just me, finally, getting up to where I should have been at 14. It's how I want to live.fugu said:Hey, I know I've said this before but your streak is amazing man. Very inspiring.
That sounds like a pretty mature 14 to me, but I guess kids are growing up faster nowadays. I continue to be amazed by all the young people on this forum who are trying to tackle this problem just as earnestly as us older folks are. Still, I don't know if there was quite this level of awareness of porn abuse/addiction back when I was a teen. Perhaps if I'd been fortunate to have been raised a teen in this era, I'd have come to this stage in my life sooner. But as a product of the 70s/80s, I sometimes wonder if I even had a chance. Oh well, better late than never, right? And as long as there are people like you here inspiring us all to be better men, I know I at least have a chance this time around.LTE said:Thanks for all of the kind words but it's not amazing, it's just me, finally, getting up to where I should have been at 14. It's how I want to live.fugu said:Hey, I know I've said this before but your streak is amazing man. Very inspiring.
I remember reading a sex ed book in high school that said most boys try masturbation but soon realize that it's not truly satisfying and they move on. I think that this was probably the case before porn became such a force in our society.fcjl8 said:I agree completely LTE. But, it is a pretty natural thing for an adolescent to try, to be curious, or even to accidentally find out that M feels good. It will never be love, but the physical lure of pleasure from M has been around for how long??
We also have to be careful with young minds and not make M seem more attractive by creating that great taboo. We warn about drugs, alcohol etc etc and often just make these things seem sexier and more desirable???
LTE said:I remember reading a sex ed book in high school that said most boys try masturbation but soon realize that it's not truly satisfying and they move on. I think that this was probably the case before porn became such a force in our society.fcjl8 said:I agree completely LTE. But, it is a pretty natural thing for an adolescent to try, to be curious, or even to accidentally find out that M feels good. It will never be love, but the physical lure of pleasure from M has been around for how long??
We also have to be careful with young minds and not make M seem more attractive by creating that great taboo. We warn about drugs, alcohol etc etc and often just make these things seem sexier and more desirable???
Make no mistake, ready access to porn holds dangers all its own.
It definitely seems to have a quantum effect. Porn has been around for a long time, but you usually had to sneak off to the seedy side of town to find it. That is no longer the case with the Internet as a delivery system.Freethinker said:LTE said:I remember reading a sex ed book in high school that said most boys try masturbation but soon realize that it's not truly satisfying and they move on. I think that this was probably the case before porn became such a force in our society.fcjl8 said:I agree completely LTE. But, it is a pretty natural thing for an adolescent to try, to be curious, or even to accidentally find out that M feels good. It will never be love, but the physical lure of pleasure from M has been around for how long??
We also have to be careful with young minds and not make M seem more attractive by creating that great taboo. We warn about drugs, alcohol etc etc and often just make these things seem sexier and more desirable???
Make no mistake, ready access to porn holds dangers all its own.
This seems to be the biggest problem. My interest in porn skyrocketed with high speed internet. It feeds the voyeur lurking within all of us. Kids are curious voyeurs and great at being sneaky.
I don't want to come across as harsh, but, ultimately, you have to get to the point where you no longer care about what is going on around you and that you will make this work, no matter what.fcjl8 said:You are right LTE, it is good that you remind all of us that life still happens. It is much easier to deal with when not spaced out on chronic masturbation. And the good times are so much better.
Jverhoye said:I concur, LTE. Waiting for the "perfect time" is a trap, because it doesn't exist, and that mindset can prevent someone from moving forward with recovery.
LTE said:I don't want to come across as harsh, but, ultimately, you have to get to the point where you no longer care about what is going on around you and that you will make this work, no matter what.fcjl8 said:You are right LTE, it is good that you remind all of us that life still happens. It is much easier to deal with when not spaced out on chronic masturbation. And the good times are so much better.
As you are aware, FC, I went through some very hard times last summer. Family members were dying all around me and a lot of other things were going on, things that were difficult at best. Ultimately, I had to plow on through and I'm glad that I did. I was fortunate to be able to keep my wits about me. Wasn't it ASG who's wife had a stroke last year? I know that it hurt him, but he kept on moving forward. He just reached 400 days. It reminds me of that song from the '80s that went;
Nobody's gonna break my stride,
Nobody's gonna slow me down.
Jverhoye said:I concur, LTE. Waiting for the "perfect time" is a trap, because it doesn't exist, and that mindset can prevent someone from moving forward with recovery.
If not now, when?
i'll comment on that, but I want to wait until the time is just right.Gabe Deem said:One of my favorite quotes by C.S Lewis - "Favorable conditions never come"
LTE said:I don't want to come across as harsh, but, ultimately, you have to get to the point where you no longer care about what is going on around you and that you will make this work, no matter what.fcjl8 said:You are right LTE, it is good that you remind all of us that life still happens. It is much easier to deal with when not spaced out on chronic masturbation. And the good times are so much better.
As you are aware, FC, I went through some very hard times last summer. Family members were dying all around me and a lot of other things were going on, things that were difficult at best. Ultimately, I had to plow on through and I'm glad that I did. I was fortunate to be able to keep my wits about me. Wasn't it ASG who's wife had a stroke last year? I know that it hurt him, but he kept on moving forward. He just reached 400 days. It reminds me of that song from the '80s that went;
Nobody's gonna break my stride,
Nobody's gonna slow me down.
Jverhoye said:I concur, LTE. Waiting for the "perfect time" is a trap, because it doesn't exist, and that mindset can prevent someone from moving forward with recovery.
If not now, when?