Murgatroyd
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Hey Conan, I've been mindful of you since you commented on my post last week. I'm new here. Also had a helpful post from Bilbo, so I can see how the forum is working its magic. This is cool. Greetings also to EarthWalker.
Today I read your Journal from top to bottom, every word. It was enlightening. After reading it all, I want to say:
1. You're pretty hard on yourself. I think your progress is exemplary! Give yourself some credit for some great strides.
2. I'm 62 and have been having orgasms with women for 47 years. I'm pretty sure I never had 3 orgasms in 15 hours with a woman, even in the 80s before the internet. <--- that is just to say it is all relative!
3. If you're curious, read up on "sleep cycles." They vary in length a little, but generally tend to run 90 minutes, more or less. It might go plus/minus 5 minutes depending on individuals and variables. The point is, I am pretty sure that erections during the night follow the same pattern, so if you use an alarm clock the chances are great that you're interrupting sleep cycles when you have to get up and go to work at a certain time. So if you use an alarm clock, don't beat yourself up if you don't wake up with a hard-on - you probably just woke up in the middle of a cycle instead of waking up at the end of one before another starts. I threw my alarm clock out in 1983. I sleep for 5 cycles = 7 hours 40 minutes. It's just how it works. Alarm clocks suck, but I get that some people have to use them. I have steered my own ship in terms of starting work in the morning since I threw out the alarm clock. Problem solved, but I am unusual, I realize that.
4. Given your comment about being depressed because of the weather, you might also poke around on the topic "Seasonal Affective Disorder" which is a real thing that people get. Seasonal Affective Disorder is not related to porn addiction.
5. Take solace when the lion does overcome the enemy. The self is ongoing; progress is the metric. You are making incredible progress. If you peak early, you really have no place to go but down. That should not be the goal. Enjoy the little victories, and strive to improve.
Keep up the good work, bud.
Today I read your Journal from top to bottom, every word. It was enlightening. After reading it all, I want to say:
1. You're pretty hard on yourself. I think your progress is exemplary! Give yourself some credit for some great strides.
2. I'm 62 and have been having orgasms with women for 47 years. I'm pretty sure I never had 3 orgasms in 15 hours with a woman, even in the 80s before the internet. <--- that is just to say it is all relative!
3. If you're curious, read up on "sleep cycles." They vary in length a little, but generally tend to run 90 minutes, more or less. It might go plus/minus 5 minutes depending on individuals and variables. The point is, I am pretty sure that erections during the night follow the same pattern, so if you use an alarm clock the chances are great that you're interrupting sleep cycles when you have to get up and go to work at a certain time. So if you use an alarm clock, don't beat yourself up if you don't wake up with a hard-on - you probably just woke up in the middle of a cycle instead of waking up at the end of one before another starts. I threw my alarm clock out in 1983. I sleep for 5 cycles = 7 hours 40 minutes. It's just how it works. Alarm clocks suck, but I get that some people have to use them. I have steered my own ship in terms of starting work in the morning since I threw out the alarm clock. Problem solved, but I am unusual, I realize that.
4. Given your comment about being depressed because of the weather, you might also poke around on the topic "Seasonal Affective Disorder" which is a real thing that people get. Seasonal Affective Disorder is not related to porn addiction.
5. Take solace when the lion does overcome the enemy. The self is ongoing; progress is the metric. You are making incredible progress. If you peak early, you really have no place to go but down. That should not be the goal. Enjoy the little victories, and strive to improve.
Keep up the good work, bud.
