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realficker

Member
Hello guys,
I am 31 and started yesterday a new reboot with stronger rules. 8)
-No porn (vidros, text, pics,..)
-No fantasies
-No fap
-Trying to avoid arousal
-sex only when I really want and my gf is available

My story can you find here:
http://legacy.rebootnation.org/index.php?topic=19204.0

Reason for this journal:
-to stay commited
-to remember everyday about my goals, especially the "no fantasy" and no fap goal.
-maybe it will help someone

Day 1
All in all the first day was easy. I touched very often my dick. I want to try to release thatin the future.
Day 2
Its early. But I think it will be also easy today.

See you :)
 
Hi, realficker.
Good thing you created this journal.

Each step counts. And this is a huge one. Also, this helps keeping the mind occupied and compromised with good things.
I also have PIED. When at THE moment with someone, I have found deep breathing and trying to keep the mind calm helps. Easier said than done, of course. But you can try to master it out during your day, and apply when needed.

Keep walking. And keep posting.
 

EarthWalker

Well-Known Member
Hi, realficker.

Imho rebooting is a 1-2 year process. It makes sense to have different parameters of the reboot along the way for each phase.

I think a period of nofap is definitely needed. But overall a mix of soft and hard mode over a 1-2 year period might have a higher success rate.

Wish you all the best on your journey
EW
 

stepbystep

Active Member
Hi realficker,

Great to see that you started a journal and are committed to beating this. This is better than most people who just keep watching P compulsively and not recognizing they have a problem. For me, after about 5 days of no MO I find it to become much harder. But after staying away for about a couple weeks, things get easier. Hang in there and keep up the great work!
 

realficker

Member
Thanks to Warrior_01, EarthWalker and stepbystep. I appreciate your tipps and motivational words. Thanks a lot.

Day 4 was also easy to handly.
Day 5 (today) I had a drive to fap, but I didnt do it. Probably because yesterday I meet some friends and we drank a bit alc. And always when I drink alcohol at the next day I have the craving to fap.
 

realficker

Member
Day 6:
Today in the morning I had a small morning wood. Probably 70-80% of the maximum hardness. It was the first since a long time without usind cialis or other thinkgs. I am now very optimistic. I think the first reboot without all the knowledge which I know now has done also some effects. And now in this second reboot with the stronger rules it will maybe go really fast. I hope it.
After the morning the rest of the day was good. I had no cravings and also no libido.
 
realficker said:
Day 6:
Today in the morning I had a small morning wood. Probably 70-80% of the maximum hardness. It was the first since a long time without usind cialis or other thinkgs. I am now very optimistic. I think the first reboot without all the knowledge which I know now has done also some effects. And now in this second reboot with the stronger rules it will maybe go really fast. I hope it.
After the morning the rest of the day was good. I had no cravings and also no libido.
Good thing you are seeing the results already, realficker.
Keep going and keep improving. More results will come in time. I'm also on day 6.
 

realficker

Member
Warrior_01 said:
Good thing you are seeing the results already, realficker.
Keep going and keep improving. More results will come in time. I'm also on day 6.

Thx and yes I was suprised about the morning wood. But my journey hast startet a few months before. Back then only no porn, because I didnt know anything about no fap, fantasies and how dangerous they can be. So I started again with stronger rules. Keep going and keep improving too. I will read your steps.

Day 7:
It was tought. I was really horny and I want to masturbate. Also someone postet a story that he can
maybe date and fuck the cousin of his ex-gf. That makes me hornier. All in all I did not masturbate and the moste fantasies I recognised and I stopped them.

Day 8:
I am still horny and last night I had a lot of sexual dreams. Now I am also thinking about to text my gf and ask her if she has time to have sex. Lol. But I am not sure if it is a good idea. Also I dont want to use cialis and I dont know if I can without... hmmm  Day 8 is still going on and I dont know if I can have sex or if I shall have sex so early in the rebooting.

 
Hi, realficker.
Last night a had a dream too, I was watching porn in my dream. Even then, it made me sick. Porn is so entangled in our lives that even in our dreams it comes to rob us of good moments (of sleep, of peace).
I relate to what you are feeling. Hope you can keep your strength, brother. It's not easy, but it is worth.

I used to have Cialis on my wallet all the time. But I realized I need to overcome this problem and eliminate the need to use these drugs. It's not natural. And by the end of the day, although I was "hard" due to the effect, I was not enjoying the moment. It feels so artificial and unnatural. In other circumstances, when I had sex without drugs, even if I was not so "hard", I enjoyed much more. I believe my partner enjoyed as well, because it was all natural for me and for her. Women feel a lot more pleasure due to emotion and feelings than in a physical level, like us man.
I believe you can tell the same: Relation without drugs are better and more satisfying. For you and for ther.

Keep the fight on, realficker.
 

realficker

Member
Thx, warrior_01. I appreciate that your are posting here. :)

I am back at the end of my day 10. A short review about the last days:
Day 8: I had no sex and I am happy with that. Also no relapse or something like tha.
Day 9: my libido dropped and this day was no problem.
Day 10: the same as yesterday. i am rarely interested in sexual things. Only one time I saw an hot woman in the underground. We watched shortly in each others eyes and it was a bit tension there. But I didn't talk to her because I was not interested and she also talked to a friend.

At the moment I am really happy and very optimistic. I think everythink will be good and I am curious what will happen in the next days and how long my journey will go on. The reason for that is probably https://www.antidopamine.com/. I have found this site today and I have read there a lot. That motivated me a lot.
 

realficker

Member
Day 11: In the morning and midday I had a strong libido. I thought this is over but obviously my sex drive is up and down. I could handle it and I did no fap.

Day 12: I woke up with an strong morning wood. This was very motivating and also one time furing the day I good an boner. Nice. I really sure that this no pmo way will help me und cure me.

Also I decided that I will do this no pmo thing "forever" (as long as possible until the "next" relapse ;) ) if only a few of the 30 benefits (mentioned at antidopamine.com) will get true. :D

I have no desire to watch porn or to read some sex stories which was my main problem. Also I am not interested in fantasizing which was also a big problem. But this depends from my libido. If the libido is high, its harder to dont do it. If its low, its easier.

I was also thinking about hypnosis or subliminals against (PI)ED or porn addiction. Maybe it can also help. On the other side I think that I am on a good way and that it will not take a long time until everything is fine. And my main reason for this things was to shorten my reboot time. All in all I hope and think I will not need it.

Btw. has someone experience with hypnosis and subs against PIED?


 

EarthWalker

Well-Known Member
Fwiw: I'd avoid having my ears plugged to a computer. I find best to just be in your body without external stimulation (without meditation audio, binaural, etc). Or just print instruction for a meditation you like and then follow them yourself (off-line).
 

realficker

Member
Hello,
I am back (without relapse) ;)

Thanks EarthWalker for your feedback! :)

Day 13
Especially in the evening I had a desire to masturbate. I was chilling in my bed before I wanted to sleep and then I had the desire. I havent done it, but

Day 14
The same as yesterday. I had also the desire to masturate when I was in bed and wanted to sleep. When I remember correctly I did this also in the past. In the first days I didnt recognise it because I hat to sleep ofte at my work and I have this desire only at my bed at home.

Day 15
I woke up a few times and slept very bad even I slept long. On time I had also a boner in the night. In the morning I felt bad, because I slept so long and also not so good. The rest of the day until now was okay.
 

realficker

Member
Hello,
I am back.
10 days later. I had a lot of things to do so I forgot often to text here.

Days 16-25
Some days were extremly hard and I remember about one day with strong fantasies but I didnt masturbate. The next day I felt completly drained and had a lot of negative thinkings. After that day my desire to masturbate was gone.

A few days later I had the first time sex with my gf. It happened naturally. It took a time until I was hard and ready, but at the end it worked fine. A good expirience. I didnt have an orgasm, because of the reboot.
All in all its easier than in first days.

sometimes I have the desire to musturbate but the most of the time there is nothing, because I am working on my own projects which I started again. Only when I work to much, it is not easy in the evening. In this case I have an desire to musturbate. Probably I want to relax. I am thinking about other ways to relax. But it happens not so often.

All in all I am on a good way and I hope to post here in the next days again.

See you
 
Good to see you are keeping busy and focused on other things. Healthy things.

Our hobbies are a great way to keep us motivated.

Hope this message find you well.



 
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