Relationship between male and female porn addicts.

Hello everyone!

I'm posting here out of curiosity to see the problem from a wider perspective, so please feel free to share your thoughts and experiences.

There are countless videos on YouTube with guys confessing about their addiction and telling about their recovery, but hardly ever you can see any woman.

Males and females are wired differently when it comes to sex I believe, but what about the addiction itself? Do females really spend hours watching porn, switching clips, with multiple tabs open, edging, masturbating? Does their taste escalate to more shocking stuff? Are they willing to act out the stuff that they find in porn arousing?

There is also a personal side to that question. I will gladly see that topic from the female perspective. The relationship between male and female porn addict.

I was in love with a woman who once confessed to me that she is "somehow addicted to sex" and that she watches "erotic movies". Although she bragged about her libido, in real life she was very shy, uncomfortable and wasn't really interested in anything physical (although she confessed that she was fantasising about me and that she wanted to have sex with me). She didn't know that I was a porn addict and the relationships eventually didn't work out.

Maybe she was scared just like me (I have PIED). Maybe women also have their sexual dysfunctions caused by PMO?  I guess a relationship between both addicts could be really a tough one, especially when both parties are rewiring. What are your toughs about it? Do you think both addicted parties could have a fulfilling sex life?

 

joepanic

Respected Member
This is in response to  the 2nd part of your post   

    I think given time and understanding 2  addicts could easily form a loving emotional and physical relationship    I say time because we addicts know that it is not only resetting the brain for 90 days  that is needed  but digging much deeper into our lives to understand  why we fell into the porn addiction nightmare to begin with  and working through those  issues.  Of course with this comes waiting for your partner to work through theirs if  you have gotten yours "fixed" up 1st

      Than there is the other issue of this      As someone who has beaten  the addiction  and has moved on to  working out the issues of why i fell into that nightmare I have come to the realization(and this is going to be very unpopular) that the way my partner lives her life and the dynamic it creates in our relationship  was a small part to me  turning to porn.  I really noticed this  as my brain cleared over time.  Will I tell her she is to blame ? Not a chance.  What I am doing is  working on ways to cope with the challenges that come with any relationship  in much more  positive and constructive  manner.    This  could be even more challenging when both people are addicts and may find that  their partner in some small way  contributed to their addiction.  I am of course not saying  that all relationships fall under this catagory  but it is of course theoretically possible.  At the end of the day I believe it is most important to get your 90 days in and clear  and reset your brain  than the real work begins  as we all know

    cheers

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kzachar1

New Member
I think I answer yes to all the questions you asked regarding women. I guess that?s why I feel so alone cuz sometimes I feel like I?m the only woman who views porn like ?how a man does.? Today it was so graphic and I feel terrible about it.
 
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Males and females are wired differently when it comes to sex I believe, but what about the addiction itself? Do females really spend hours watching porn, switching clips, with multiple tabs open, edging, masturbating? Does their taste escalate to more shocking stuff? Are they willing to act out the stuff that they find in porn arousing?
Can only talk for myself I guess, but when watching porn it can go from 10 minutes just to get off to hours and hours. I do edge too, but unlike guys I can pretty much just go straight on after an orgasm. Though not all girls can cum multiple times, I think that might be a difference between guys and girls. And yes, escalation happened to me too and that probably did affect my sex life. You start to see things from porn flicks as normal which might be not so normal. I have a high sexdrive and am pretty openminded, but I'm pretty sure I have done things I wouldn't have if I hadn't escalated.

Maybe she was scared just like me (I have PIED). Maybe women also have their sexual dysfunctions caused by PMO? I guess a relationship between both addicts could be really a tough one, especially when both parties are rewiring. What are your toughs about it? Do you think both addicted parties could have a fulfilling sex life?
I just read some articles that women can also get something similar to ED which works on both a mental and physical level. Never experienced that myself, but according to the articles it's a serious thing. So yeah, we can have sexual dysfunctions too. As for the relationship question: I'd say that dealing with issues like these it would be easiest if you have a partner that is stable, especially if you want to rewire.
 
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