Extra-focus Post
A place for when extra vigilance is needed, when weak or tempted.
Statements:
In true recovery (active) as opposed to recoveryism of the disease-model of addiction (passive), you are:
On relapses:
From Amy Johnson's 10 Big Ideas about Habit Change:
Big Idea #8. The truth about setbacks
Setbacks feel like a big deal. But they aren’t.
Peek up at Big Idea #7 [which says, "It may take practice- ending our habit"], and consider the fact that your brain is very used to your habit or addiction. There will most likely be setbacks. They are meaningless in and of themselves. Yes, meaningless. The only way a setback can hurt you or actually set you back, is if you decide it is meaningful and you use it as an excuse to spiral downward.
When you see that setbacks are simply part of the process, you’re not set back at all. - Amy Johnson
Even if you should have a moment, an hour, an evening, or several days of excess, the next morning is yours for you to recapture the equanimity and self-respect of your mindful self - Stanton Peele.
> Red line behaviors: P, PMO, and MO.
> Orange line behaviors: p-subs and edging (although edging spikes the dopamine worse than just MO'ing).
> Yellow line behaviors: lusting in public, seeking a woman's attention, or depending on beautiful women as if emotionally 'driven'.
The above was posted in lieu of the bad habits of edging, p-subs and MO that came from 8/21 to 2/22.
Links:
Progress Tracker, Focus, 18 Principals, Joseph or Phineas?
A place for when extra vigilance is needed, when weak or tempted.
Statements:
In true recovery (active) as opposed to recoveryism of the disease-model of addiction (passive), you are:
- active, involved, self-directed—the opposite of the passive vision that you are suffering from a disease you can’t control;
- outward- and forward-looking—rather than focusing on yourself as a trauma victim (Maté) or biological aberration (Volkow);
- purpose driven—you are pursuing values and goals, rather than concentrating on trying not to do something;
- positive—you believe the best about yourself and your life; you don’t see yourself as a disabled or deficient human being;
- valuable—you believe that you and your life have a meaning to be fulfilled for the benefit of yourself and others and the world.
On relapses:
From Amy Johnson's 10 Big Ideas about Habit Change:
Big Idea #8. The truth about setbacks
Setbacks feel like a big deal. But they aren’t.
Peek up at Big Idea #7 [which says, "It may take practice- ending our habit"], and consider the fact that your brain is very used to your habit or addiction. There will most likely be setbacks. They are meaningless in and of themselves. Yes, meaningless. The only way a setback can hurt you or actually set you back, is if you decide it is meaningful and you use it as an excuse to spiral downward.
When you see that setbacks are simply part of the process, you’re not set back at all. - Amy Johnson
Even if you should have a moment, an hour, an evening, or several days of excess, the next morning is yours for you to recapture the equanimity and self-respect of your mindful self - Stanton Peele.
> Red line behaviors: P, PMO, and MO.
> Orange line behaviors: p-subs and edging (although edging spikes the dopamine worse than just MO'ing).
> Yellow line behaviors: lusting in public, seeking a woman's attention, or depending on beautiful women as if emotionally 'driven'.
The above was posted in lieu of the bad habits of edging, p-subs and MO that came from 8/21 to 2/22.
Links:
Progress Tracker, Focus, 18 Principals, Joseph or Phineas?
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