Hi, Escape! Thank you for your comments.
Definitely, counting days can be 'counter-productive'. My goal is to always come to a place where I no longer need to count days, once I accomplish an abstinence challenge. For me, hitting 0 doesn't mean starting over, but in the bigger picture, it may mean that extra vigilance is needed to not rehabitualize the former behaviors. My goal is to leave this crap behind me, and to just live life, which means not counting day by day, but perhaps checking in once in a while, and saying, "Oh great, it's been 285 days since I last used!"- and go on...
I do have a probationary counter of 30 days, if I lapsed after hitting my goals. If I meet that period without further incident, I'll simply go on without counting. But if I lapsed again (re-lapse) within that 30 days, then that means I'd have to meet another 90-day abstinence challenge. That's what occurred for me after my 139 day streak.
Yes, definitely, the 'porn is not an option mindest' is the only way to go. We can keep this quote in front of us:
99% is a bitch, 100% is a breeze. ~ Jack Canfield
Or,
There is a difference between interest and commitment.
When you’re interested in doing something,
you do it only when it’s convenient.
When you’re committed to something,
you accept no excuses, only results.
~ Ken Blanchard
The dopamine levels acquired through porn are akin to heroine, and so one hit is all it may take to want to repeat the high..., so after a lengthy time of abstinence, it's best to just walk away. How hard folk kick themselves when they were Scott free, and then played around a little, and found themselves where they started.
Definitely, counting days can be 'counter-productive'. My goal is to always come to a place where I no longer need to count days, once I accomplish an abstinence challenge. For me, hitting 0 doesn't mean starting over, but in the bigger picture, it may mean that extra vigilance is needed to not rehabitualize the former behaviors. My goal is to leave this crap behind me, and to just live life, which means not counting day by day, but perhaps checking in once in a while, and saying, "Oh great, it's been 285 days since I last used!"- and go on...
I do have a probationary counter of 30 days, if I lapsed after hitting my goals. If I meet that period without further incident, I'll simply go on without counting. But if I lapsed again (re-lapse) within that 30 days, then that means I'd have to meet another 90-day abstinence challenge. That's what occurred for me after my 139 day streak.
Yes, definitely, the 'porn is not an option mindest' is the only way to go. We can keep this quote in front of us:
99% is a bitch, 100% is a breeze. ~ Jack Canfield
Or,
There is a difference between interest and commitment.
When you’re interested in doing something,
you do it only when it’s convenient.
When you’re committed to something,
you accept no excuses, only results.
~ Ken Blanchard
The dopamine levels acquired through porn are akin to heroine, and so one hit is all it may take to want to repeat the high..., so after a lengthy time of abstinence, it's best to just walk away. How hard folk kick themselves when they were Scott free, and then played around a little, and found themselves where they started.
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