Escapeandnevercomeback
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Sounds good, man! You got the plan!
I can relate to what you are saying about not having anyone to talk to.I am still dealing with the female friendship (emotional not sexual), as it is difficult to let go of. I know I need to, so I'm not stuck in life and so I'm not dishonoring my wife in any way. But again, I don't have so many friends that I can pick-and-choose who to let go of, and who to keep. It's difficult when my wife can get on the phone and talk to her friends and family (daily), and I have literally no one to talk to outside my immediate family.
I can relate to what you are saying about not having anyone to talk to.
About the female friendship. What does you heart say about this? If you would break this off simply because it might trigger trust issues in your wife...hm... maybe not the best reason? Anyway. Follow your intuition and heart and everything will work out.
Take care
EW
Your post is both profound and wise, thank you for sharing it. Holiness indeed.I have a new motto that I can apply for the rest of my life, and certainly when I'm tempted:
Holiness not loneliness!
This phrase is in line with my faith, but it also speaks deeper to include both my aspirations and the root causes for my lust-driven issues.
My male design comes with a strong sex-drive, which is given not only to encourage propagation of the species, but to also draw me closer to God.
"Deep calleth unto deep..." - Psalms 42:7a.
This is the true situation, and when I'm tempted to lust after a woman's beauty in public, or am driven to 'drink my fill' of lust on social media, or to seek for pleasure in P, PMO or MO, it is only because I'm deep down hungry and thirsty for God. Over the years I've mistaken this drive for a hunger after other things, and these in turn became habits and later addictions, but all the while my true thirst was for the Living Water only He provides.
Knowing, too, that my longing for love, intimacy and affection (yes, even after being married!) is all in truth a longing for Him!
This then is a commitment to turn to God whenever I hunger or thirst after beauty, love or pleasure. He provides to me that state of holiness in Himself and what He accomplished for me, and all my turning is a remembrance of that which is rightfully mine by grace, despite all my previous- or even current failures.
Your post is both profound and wise, thank you for sharing it. Holiness indeed.
Congratulations on your progress. I hope it turns into a no-pmo series that will last forever, no longer expressed in days.
I like what I'm seeing, man. What you're doing is working.
I can definitely see that.Thank you, Escape! Things have definitely improved for me...