I've been watching Dexter a lot lately, and there are scenes in there which occasionally show nudity or compromising situations.
This is a good opportunity for me to exercise control, and look away, or go do something else while that scene plays out.
This is my approach, to take a cue- not on purpose, but as happens in our daily life, and use it to control..., or better, to not respond to it. That's when real habit change occurs.
This is our power. How we react to cues:
?Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.?
? Viktor E. Frankl
This is the difference between 'triggers' and 'cues'. The concept of triggers is that it takes away your power, and sets off a series of events that end up with using or performing whatever addictive substance or behavior. Cues are different, because they acknowledge that, 'Yes' things cause a reaction in us, stimulate us to use or behave according to our addiction. But the difference is that we still have control, we always have control over whatever our cues are.
I challenge any here to think about their stimuli differently, that 'No'- you're not triggered that you must now use. Rather, you were 'cued' by something, but you always have the power to say, 'No', and act differently than you did before.
This is a good opportunity for me to exercise control, and look away, or go do something else while that scene plays out.
This is my approach, to take a cue- not on purpose, but as happens in our daily life, and use it to control..., or better, to not respond to it. That's when real habit change occurs.
This is our power. How we react to cues:
?Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.?
? Viktor E. Frankl
This is the difference between 'triggers' and 'cues'. The concept of triggers is that it takes away your power, and sets off a series of events that end up with using or performing whatever addictive substance or behavior. Cues are different, because they acknowledge that, 'Yes' things cause a reaction in us, stimulate us to use or behave according to our addiction. But the difference is that we still have control, we always have control over whatever our cues are.
I challenge any here to think about their stimuli differently, that 'No'- you're not triggered that you must now use. Rather, you were 'cued' by something, but you always have the power to say, 'No', and act differently than you did before.