Fapping With A Partner

[linton170]

As part of my journey to quit porn and recover from ED, I have decided to start dating with help from pills instead of waiting until after the 90 days reboot no PMO. But seems like even with the help of pills (5mg of Tadalafil) I lose my erection and only manual stimulation (using MY hands) keeps the erections and gets me off.

The partner is enjoying the moment and trying to make it last while my only concern is getting my erection back to come, and it's kind-of embarassing. Do I continue dating even if things seem rocky and I'm not ready for penetration?

Do I keep taking pills? 5mg seem quite innocuous but helps me get erections AT LEAST!

And most importantly, is masturbating while being intimate normal or do I totally stop it and suffer the few first dates hoping that things would get better down the line?

BTW, I'm gay.

 

[Ziggy116]

As part of my journey to quit porn and recover from ED, I have decided to start dating with help from pills instead of waiting until after the 90 days reboot no PMO. But seems like even with the help of pills (5mg of Tadalafil) I lose my erection and only manual stimulation (using MY hands) keeps the erections and gets me off.

The partner is enjoying the moment and trying to make it last while my only concern is getting my erection back to come, and it's kind-of embarassing. Do I continue dating even if things seem rocky and I'm not ready for penetration?

Do I keep taking pills? 5mg seem quite innocuous but helps me get erections AT LEAST!

And most importantly, is masturbating while being intimate normal or do I totally stop it and suffer the few first dates hoping that things would get better down the line?

BTW, I'm gay.

I'm a gay man also with a partner..as I've mentioned in a previous post I have had mw every morning of my life... My partner loves giving me oral in the morning because of that...I am on day 19 no PMO. No masturbation...I do not have to fantasize while he's giving me oral... Just seeing him down there doing his thing is all I need...I have no problem keeping an erection but only right there in bed... In the morning...so, that said, I see nothing wrong with you masturbating with someone... You are re wiring your brain to enjoy the touch of another human being... For me I feel it helps.. So I say it's ok for you to have mutual masturbation... I mean hey.. Who doesn't like getting a handy... Hang in there bud... Just remember... No porn... No self masturbating... Good luck bud.

 

[canguro]

Ziggy wrote that only HIS hands help and I think that can be a problem, better let your partner do it, because then you are really re-wiring and not just imitating fapping alone to get hard again =) if you want to do more dates, do it, if you think it affects you negatively (for example makes you anxious) I would rather wait a bit...but that's on you and how much this affects you

 

[Ziggy116]

Ziggy wrote that only HIS hands help and I think that can be a problem, better let your partner do it, because then you are really re-wiring and not just imitating fapping alone to get hard again =) if you want to do more dates, do it, if you think it affects you negatively (for example makes you anxious) I would rather wait a bit...but that's on you and how much this affects you

Maybe I didn't explain right....I meant for only the partner to use his hand on him...as we do...I do not Jack myself off... Sorry if I didn't make that clear.

 

[linton170]

Yes, I feel letting the partner do it helps in that it kind-of breaks off the dependency of using my hand to get aroused. I'm just trusting the process and continuing. almost 40 days porn and masturbation free! I get these moments when I stroke my dick and just feel happy when it gets hard, but I immediately stop and let it go back to sleep.

Thanks guys!

 

[Ziggy116]

Yes, I feel letting the partner do it helps in that it kind-of breaks off the dependency of using my hand to get aroused. I'm just trusting the process and continuing. almost 40 days porn and masturbation free! I get these moments when I stroke my dick and just feel happy when it gets hard, but I immediately stop and let it go back to sleep.

Thanks guys!

Good morning, I definitely feel the human connection is important... That's great you are 40 days... Think I'm 36 days today... So determined to beat this thing...wanna be me again...I too sometimes while in bed just stroke my cock till it's hard then just let it go...lol... Nice to know it works.... Keep up the good work and have a great day

 

[LettingPornGo]

Hello All,
Great Sunday afternoon. Would like to add a few to the discussion here. I am a 50 year old gay male and I am on 6 days, no PMO, with 2 days MO. My libido is fairly high, especially being a gym, but suffer from PIED..bad. I am changing this part of my life and sleeping naked and getting used to touch for arousal. When my partner and I get back together, I intend to more sensual, touching, and with human contact for arousal and org as opposed to Porn (I hate this part of me and I want it to change). I can't say that I will go months with no MO...not sure, but I am not wanting to go back to PMO..its recovery and I will take this day by day. Have a great day all!

 

[Ziggy116]

Hello All,
Great Sunday afternoon. Would like to add a few to the discussion here. I am a 50 year old gay male and I am on 6 days, no PMO, with 2 days MO. My libido is fairly high, especially being a gym, but suffer from PIED..bad. I am changing this part of my life and sleeping naked and getting used to touch for arousal. When my partner and I get back together, I intend to more sensual, touching, and with human contact for arousal and org as opposed to Porn (I hate this part of me and I want it to change). I can't say that I will go months with no MO...not sure, but I am not wanting to go back to PMO..its recovery and I will take this day by day. Have a great day all!

Good morning lettingporngo... Congrats on the 6 days no PMO no mo... The human connection is very important in my opinion... It has helped me alot, but I do have a very understanding partner. You say you are starting to sleep naked to help with arousal, I have slept naked ever since I was like 12, but sometimes wonder if maybe that's not a good thing. By that I mean being naked in bed your cock is always exposed to touch and some sort of stimulation, maybe that is part of why normal partnered touch isn't as exciting? Idk, just something I've thought about. Over the past 3 months I've tried sleeping with underwear on but just can't do it. One... They get all twisted up... Two, all the nocturnal erections I get it just, well, um hurts... So I end up taking them off. Have not made it with underwear on all night yet. To me sleeping naked is just the only way to sleep. Anyway, hang in there. I am on day 57 no porn no PMO. And have only MO twice by myself. Honestly think about watching porn very seldom..I do think about MO very often as I've been an avid monkey spanker all my life. Will I completely stop masturbating for the rest of my life? I highly doubt it...I just don't want it to be a daily habit. Will I ever watch porn again? I certainly hope not. That is definitely a dark road too be on and fucks your brain up so bad. The bodies and sex in porn are so unrealistic I so understand how it has effected all of us. It's so scary how much porn is so easily accessable now days. I fear the young generation has even more of a chance to get screwed up because of it. I have two grown kids and it's scary to know what all they have at the swipe of a screen.. Hang in there it will get better but won't be easy to get there.

 

[Jorge0fap]

ME AYUDAN ...NO SE QUE ES PMO MO ???

 

[MK3583]

I'm loving this thread. Nice to hear from other Gay men. I look after many male partners, servicing their needs because let's face it no one wants to play with a guy who can't get hard. Sexual play and intimate contact can get me chubbed but that's about as far as it goes. My partners enjoy the erotic and fetish playtime and get off big time, and in my head I enjoy the play, but I don't get off usually until I M2P. Right now No porn or Masturbating, just playing with other men's bodies. Hopefully that will start reprogramming my head.