Thank you guys, really appreciate the kind words.
KL, the acts I describe in my first post were MOing at inappropriate times (people sleeping in the same room, on very long phone calls when I was bored). The phone stuff particularly bothers me. Only happened twice, and it had nothing to do with the other person, just was bored, and for some reason didn't think to hang-up. Not a kink or anything, was just bored so my mind wandered and it only takes me about a minute to self soothe, so I did. Was like I wasn't even on the phone really, but it still makes me feel so gross. That's where most of my shame is from right now, and I know it's related to the addiction, but I feel like such a lowlife for having done that. Even knowing it was just me tuning out the other person and in one instance looking at P to ignore them, in the other, just trying to survive the call. But feel very gross.
Chris, been in therapy for the last three years, P issue only just came out recently as I didn't even realize it had become such a crutch. Therapy actually makes me feel even worse right now to be discussing it. I know it's just shame though. Mindfulness is something I started recently, but I have trouble sticking with it. I do feel calmer after doing it, which calmer is something I cherish right now. I'll get back into a better routing with it. Thanks!
Thank you ak, we're making it!