TheHeartacheKid
Active Member
Day 0 no PMO
Day 0 no MO
Sigh...I actually had a good night last night, felt as good as I have in a long time. But then I woke up in the middle of the night, and this scene popped into my head, and I could not get it out of my head. So I MO to memories (but the scene is what drove me to MO really). I was also in a fair amount of pain all night (muscle spasms). Forgot how discomfort plays into the addiction. Woke up today and still couldn't get the scene out of my head. Went for a walk in the cold, came back, played a game but couldn't stop obsessing, so I gave in. And gave in a few more times today. Just didn't do the right things for myself today to remove myself from the situation. Obsessive thoughts is always something I've struggled with though, particularly when those thoughts induce pain/sadness/anger. I'm also sure a good bit of this was chaser effect.
I know not to be too hard on myself, but I am mad. I knew I wouldn't feel good after, and I don't. I know it doesn't completely undue all of my progress either, just need to reset a number is all. Still irritating. I didn't realize me feeling decent could also lead to me PMO. I'm aware now, but of course the negative self hatred thoughts have returned, with the added bonus of reminding me of a relapse.
Some good did come out of it though, I was pretty disgusted by what I was watching (and it wasn't anything extreme). I wasn't really enjoying it. It was definitely a rush, but I just didn't like what I was seeing. Not sex itself repulses me, just watching other people do it on a screen. So hopefully I can remember that going forward.
One other good thing, when I MO without P in the middle of the night, it was so much better than I can remember it being, the feeling that is. I read it's common for everything to feel so much better after giving up P. I'll look forward to having actual sex again...in time though.
Anyone else struggling with a relapse, don't beat yourself up, we're human. Anyone on the verge of a relapse, it's not worth it. Hope others are staying strong.
Day 0 no MO
Sigh...I actually had a good night last night, felt as good as I have in a long time. But then I woke up in the middle of the night, and this scene popped into my head, and I could not get it out of my head. So I MO to memories (but the scene is what drove me to MO really). I was also in a fair amount of pain all night (muscle spasms). Forgot how discomfort plays into the addiction. Woke up today and still couldn't get the scene out of my head. Went for a walk in the cold, came back, played a game but couldn't stop obsessing, so I gave in. And gave in a few more times today. Just didn't do the right things for myself today to remove myself from the situation. Obsessive thoughts is always something I've struggled with though, particularly when those thoughts induce pain/sadness/anger. I'm also sure a good bit of this was chaser effect.
I know not to be too hard on myself, but I am mad. I knew I wouldn't feel good after, and I don't. I know it doesn't completely undue all of my progress either, just need to reset a number is all. Still irritating. I didn't realize me feeling decent could also lead to me PMO. I'm aware now, but of course the negative self hatred thoughts have returned, with the added bonus of reminding me of a relapse.
Some good did come out of it though, I was pretty disgusted by what I was watching (and it wasn't anything extreme). I wasn't really enjoying it. It was definitely a rush, but I just didn't like what I was seeing. Not sex itself repulses me, just watching other people do it on a screen. So hopefully I can remember that going forward.
One other good thing, when I MO without P in the middle of the night, it was so much better than I can remember it being, the feeling that is. I read it's common for everything to feel so much better after giving up P. I'll look forward to having actual sex again...in time though.
Anyone else struggling with a relapse, don't beat yourself up, we're human. Anyone on the verge of a relapse, it's not worth it. Hope others are staying strong.