Boyfriend masturbates viewing photos of known persons

[purpler]

Dating for 4 years and 6 months. In the beggining of the year, I discovered that my boyfriend masturbates looking for photos of known persons on his Facebook or looking my friend?s photos. I talked with him and he told me that would stop. I trusted him and I thought that this problem was resolved.
But recently I looked his computer history and photos of a girl which his boyfriend has been dead (and was one of the best friends of my boyfriend) followed by sex videos. So, I decided to talk with him again and confirm my doubt. He told me after a long time that he didn?t stop?he had tried in a short time but failed and he was very ashamed. I?ve decided to break with him, I felt betrayed. He started to cry and saying that this is a problem he had that he does not like too. So, he told that does this a long time ago (before we start dating) and he didn?t feel atraction with the girls (some girls wasn?t beautiful), is something which he couldn?t explain for me.
Now, he said that will change and I feel a little change in him (he went to the therapy but stopped. He said that have changed his mind and if he seen that is not helping, he will come back) and he want to conquer my trust again.

The point is? I can?t trust him yet. Is a little hard for me (and recent) and I don?t know if is a problem or he only want to do this. I think he loves me but is strange.I?m with a lot of doubts and without answers.

I want to help him but he doesn't. He said that don't like to talk about this. Is really a disease?

 

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"He started to cry and saying that this is a problem he had that he does not like too. So, he told that does this a long time ago (before we start dating) and he didn?t feel atraction with the girls (some girls wasn?t beautiful), is something which he couldn?t explain for me."

This is a trademark aspect of addiction, yes your ex boyfriend is addicted. Yes he probably does love you but his addiction is clouding his judgement of what's really important here, your relationship.

Your boyfriend needs support right now, but at the same time he needs to be reminded that you will leave him if he doesn't change.

If he's not willing to listen just get up "www.yourbrainonporn.com" and tell him to read through it. There are plenty of resources for recovery there. This process will take a long time, it will be difficult, but not impossible.

Anything that is sexually stimulating on a screen IS porn, porn websites, bikini photos, girls on facebook... It's all porn