35 - Heavily Addicted for 15 years - No ED?

[Maglue]

Hey buddy I'm similar to you apart from the edging those are some huge hours you put in... geeze what an effort...
I'm onto day 1 today giving up porn for first time and only just started to discover my problem and how serious it had started too become...recently even porn wouldn't stimulate me enough and I didnt go too far into savage content...recently I started to not get hard... maybe 50% and I continued to orgasim I realised it was not good when I got weak bladder a couple of times...  I did some kegels and it helped with that really well but while I have a shower I have the urge to piss when I dont need to ... the water sensation
Geeze man the consequences of our actions ... I'm abit scared after reading some of the other pages but I dont feel I'm as bad... I didnt get right into porn until 25ish I'm 36now ...
Geeze this is now my life's mission to sort this out and become total addiction free I started my own page ...
Good luck buddy

 

[cakecrocodileshrimp]

My guess it that since you are an older guy like me (I'm guessing mid 30s is considered older on this forum) you probably started out on dialup porn, and didn't progress to high speed tube sites until you were past puberty. I think this is a large part of it?people who jump right into hardcore HD streaming videos from the age of 11 hardwire their brain to porn when it is at its most plastic, and so the wiring is much deeper and stronger than people who didn't get into streaming videos until post-puberty. For me, we didn't even get broadband in my home til I was about 20, so my formative years on porn were spent very, very slowly loading photos one at a time, occasionally spending 45 minutes downloading a grainy lo-res 30 second video. I think this is why I have been able to have an addiction for 20+ years and although I definitely have weak erections I can still have sex.

Another thing is, I guess you could just be lucky. Some people smoke for 30 years and never get cancer. I think porn radically increases the probability of ED, it doesn't guarantee it.

 

[Deleted member 17609]

My guess it that since you are an older guy like me (I'm guessing mid 30s is considered older on this forum) you probably started out on dialup porn, and didn't progress to high speed tube sites until you were past puberty. I think this is a large part of it?people who jump right into hardcore HD streaming videos from the age of 11 hardwire their brain to porn when it is at its most plastic, and so the wiring is much deeper and stronger than people who didn't get into streaming videos until post-puberty. For me, we didn't even get broadband in my home til I was about 20, so my formative years on porn were spent very, very slowly loading photos one at a time, occasionally spending 45 minutes downloading a grainy lo-res 30 second video. I think this is why I have been able to have an addiction for 20+ years and although I definitely have weak erections I can still have sex.

Another thing is, I guess you could just be lucky. Some people smoke for 30 years and never get cancer. I think porn radically increases the probability of ED, it doesn't guarantee it.

Well said, I think this probably makes a lot of sense. I am 32 too, and though I have had PIED ever since I became sexually active, I?ve been able to have sex too, so things could be worse. Damn, we?re lucky we were born in the 80?s. Poor guys who grew up directly with high-speed internet...

Also, the age a guy started having sex probably has an impact too. Aussie said he was already having sex when he was 13, it?s a good thing. He probably wired his brain towards women early enough.

I had sex for the first time when I was 16. I already had a few years of porn under my belt, but 16 is probably not too bad for the brain, I mean, it?s probably more plastic at 16 than it is at 25. Due to weird circumstances unrelated to ED, I never made love with that girl, but she would blow me 2-3 times a week, and that lasted for a few months. I had similar experiences with other girls in the next months: I had many blowjobs in that period without even knowing I had PIED (I rarely lose my erection when I get a blowjob, and I didn?t try penetrative sex until I was almost 19...).  God, today I?m grateful to those girls... Thanks to them, at least I had some wiring towards women when I was still pretty young. And, to be honest, today I still prefer a blowjob to penetrative sex. It?s not really normal, obviously, and probably caused by some sort of morphing of tastes due to porn. But sometimes I am wondering if I prefer blowjobs because I had many of them when I was a teen (I didn?t have successful penetrative sex until I was in my 20?s, many years later). Of course, I?ll never know for sure, and actually it?s not really important to discover the truth about this. Still, sometimes I ask myself these questions...

 

[Maglue]

I totally agree... being born in the 1980s we are so lucky...
I used to watch DVDs as a kid even going to porn booths sometimes.. but now it's just totally next level with all the browsers you can open and skipping right to the scenes... clicking to near the end of the video... moving onto the next quickly...
Geeze when I think of all the sick shit I did .... but I'm now reading of people who are doing far deeper extreme stuff...

 

[Aussie_85]

Wow those posts just really connected the dots for me and made me remember shit I haven?t thought about for many years.

I can?t put an exact date on when we got broadband,I?d say around 19/20 years old. Before that, I think around 16, with dial up internet - it wasn?t easy to find porn online. No tube sites etc. I actually remember one of my childhood stoner mates handing me a piece of paper with a website address on it with an accomplished proud grin, basically telling me this was the holy grail of porn - it was. I won?t name the site in case it triggers anyone but the last time I looked it was still active. A site with thousands of links to preview videos (20 secs or so) picture galleries that as cakecrocodileshrimp said took a few minutes to load one SD pic, half hour or an hour for the clips.

Sure, I?d stay up late and fap, but I?d be lucky to see 10 pics and one preview clip without my AMD shitty PC crashing, internet dropping out etc - nothing comparable today and it just wasn?t possible to consume the amount of content on offer today.

I feel really bad for the younger guys, I would?ve been right into it if we had high speed internet with all the tube sites and done even more damage to myself.

We were the last generation to grow up as kids 0-15 without ?technology? no mobile phones, no high speed internet or social media - you had to make your own fun. That?s a pretty significant point in history.

Thanks for the posts guys this really gave me answers.

My anxiety/social/motivational/depression etc didn?t start effecting me until age 22,after a few years of high speed usage.

All the best,

Aussie

 

[cakecrocodileshrimp]

I think I was 11 or 12 when I first heard about this newfangled internet thing that lets you chat with people online and read the New York Times very very slowly in the comfort of your own computer room (and also let you look up how to pass those damned impossible 90s video games). These days 12 year olds are streaming HD hardcore porn on their phones in the back of their 6th grade classroom. It's not surprising that it is affecting them more than us, and I really do feel sorry for them. This entire generation of boys is going to have serious problems 25 years from now.

 

[Maglue]

80% of children are watching porn....
The world is in serious trouble....

 

[Jeks]

I started with 13, at that time fist tube sites were available. And i can remember quite vividly, that there was always this one category, which seemed weird, but somehow also interesting to me. One day i clicked on it, maybe with the age of 14 or 15 and it got only down hill from there. So yeah, going against your generic sexuality at around age 15 is probably not a good idea...
The last spontanious erection i can remember was around the age of 16.

 

[Aussie_85]

I started with 13, at that time fist tube sites were available. And i can remember quite vividly, that there was always this one category, which seemed weird, but somehow also interesting to me. One day i clicked on it, maybe with the age of 14 or 15 and it got only down hill from there. So yeah, going against your generic sexuality at around age 15 is probably not a good idea...
The last spontanious erection i can remember was around the age of 16.

That's scary man, how old are you now?

I can't imagine being in high school having HOCD - although now socially it's much more acceptable (bout time). It's a confusing time naturally let alone battling those kinds of things.

I don't know what the western world will be like in 20 years as technology keeps moving forward. Even now, sex robots - unaffordable for teens - interactive VR sex toys that you attach to your desk (basically a fleshlight) - VR headset, press play and your immersed into a fake world. Eventually the prices will drop making them more accessible to the masses. The future of this kind of stuff will be crazy.

Surely eventually it will be introduced into the education system and kids will learn about it - hell get gazza to go give speeches at high schools with his walking frame  8)

 

[Jeks]

I can't imagine being in high school having HOCD - although now socially it's much more acceptable (bout time). It's a confusing time naturally let alone battling those kinds of things.

No, sorry, that came around the wrong way. I have got no HOCD. What i meant is, that i started watching a lot of fetish-stuff around the age of 14. And this stuff spiraled down quickly.

Yeah the next deacdes will be pretty bad for the next generation with VR and what not.

 

[nish]

Just want to say that do not edge ...never..it's the worst you could do with your brain ...the sudden dopamine volcano will take a hell lot of time to go back to normal ...just don't do edging