Erectile dysfunction is killing me, help before I give up

Kingsmith007

New Member
Please I need someone to help me, I have been battling with ED for a long time, have never had sex in my life and I am 26 years old now, I have been masturbating for almost 10 years now, I have read many comments here and I think I have a different case, I do get my morning erections and I can masturbate with or without porn, I can also get erection by just looking at a girl or thinking of her but my problem is when it comes to the main thing my penis is nowhere to be found, I have tried having sex with almost 5 different girls in the past few years but still the same result, once I try to penetrate it goes flaccid and becomes hard to rise again.....its becoming embarrassing for me and that has made me afraid of having anything to do with girls again please it's this my case PIED, someone help me please, and I have gone 14 days without porn or masturbation
 

Cp6uH

Member
This sounds a lot like Performance Anxiety(PA) problem.Those bad experiences are killing you inside it is obvious.You can search online - there are many forums discussing that topic and I'm sure that you will find some method that guys with PA used to overcome it.Of course before that,I strongly suggest visiting urologist to make sure there aren't any physical causes.It goes without saying to keep on the track of no porn and no masturbation.Wish you all the best !
 

matt95

Member
Glad to see you here! Based on what you're saying, I'd highly recommend seeing a urologist. Getting checked out can't hurt and may give you some peace of mind. Did the same thing happen with each girl? If it's the case that you get morning erections and have no trouble getting erections outside of an actual sexual encounter, it is more than likely an anxiety issue. I know it probably sounds obvious, but I'd also recommend trying to start a sexual relationship with a girl you are interested in and feel comfortable with. If you trust her and know that she isn't going to be hurt or upset that sex doesn't work on the first try, that will take a lot of pressure off of you.
 

guitar1968

Active Member
Please I need someone to help me, I have been battling with ED for a long time, have never had sex in my life and I am 26 years old now, I have been masturbating for almost 10 years now, I have read many comments here and I think I have a different case, I do get my morning erections and I can masturbate with or without porn, I can also get erection by just looking at a girl or thinking of her but my problem is when it comes to the main thing my penis is nowhere to be found, I have tried having sex with almost 5 different girls in the past few years but still the same result, once I try to penetrate it goes flaccid and becomes hard to rise again.....its becoming embarrassing for me and that has made me afraid of having anything to do with girls again please it's this my case PIED, someone help me please, and I have gone 14 days without porn or masturbation
Definitely sounds like Anxiety to me. I have suffered with anxiety around sex for most of my life. I have always had more trouble in a new relationship and then once I started to feel comfortable with my partner things got much better. Of course, now I have PIED along with anxiety so it is an uphill battle. I'm done with PMO and am working on just relaxing. Sex should be fun and not stressful. I've also realized that penetration doesn't have to be the only way to have fun. If you take it off the table as an absolute, it relaxes things tremendously. If it happens, great if not, enjoy each other. Touch each other. There are a lot of ways to give and receive pleasure besides just penetration. Once you gain comfort and confidence with the other stuff, penetration will be there for you.

Relax, be strong, stay away from porn and hopefully you'll start to round the corner on this.
 

Fappy

Respected Member
for how long werre u into porn before your current 14 day streak? if you were quite heavily into it the damage may already be done
 
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